{"id":151,"date":"2021-11-23T06:02:44","date_gmt":"2021-11-23T05:02:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/?p=151"},"modified":"2022-07-25T12:27:59","modified_gmt":"2022-07-25T10:27:59","slug":"kendini-sevebilme-olgusu-a","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/index.php\/2021\/11\/23\/kendini-sevebilme-olgusu-a\/","title":{"rendered":"Kendini sevebilme olgusu (a)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Kendimi ne kadar seviyorum ben? dedi\u011fimde akl\u0131na ne geliyor? <\/span><\/p>\n

Elbette ki etraf\u0131m\u0131zda hemde \u00e7o\u011funlukla dolanan narsistlerin kendilerine taparcas\u0131na kendilerini sevmesinden bahsetmiyorum ben. Kendini sevmek demek, ki\u015finin sevdi\u011fi ve ki\u015fiyi insan ve insan\u0131 Kamil-i insan yapan eylemlerinin tamam\u0131ndan anlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorum. <\/span><\/p>\n

Kendini sevme olgusunu herkes kendi i\u00e7 alemine g\u00f6re belirler. Bana g\u00f6re kendine de\u011fer vermek demek, benim ruhuma iyi gelen \u015feyleri yap\u0131p iyi gelmeyenlerini de iyice tart\u0131p eleyerek hayat\u0131mdan s\u00f6k\u00fcp atmam demektir. \u0130nsana hizmet bir ba\u015fka kendini sevme olgusudur: Allah i\u00e7in birilerine hizmet etmek ama bilin\u00e7li olmal\u0131 bu de\u011fer. <\/span><\/p>\n

Akl\u0131ma an\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015fen ve bana iyi gelece\u011fini bildi\u011fim bir maceray\u0131 hemencecik uygulamam demektir kendini sevmek. Ancak kendisini seven bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 sevebilir ve ancakta Allah’\u0131 seven birisi kendisini sevebilir.
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Yarat\u0131lan\u0131 sev Yaratan’dan \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fc. Yunus Emre<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Sabah kalkt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda aynaya bak\u0131nca “Yaratan ne g\u00fczel yaratm\u0131\u015f“ <\/span>demekte ayr\u0131ca bir sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 kendini \u00f6nemseme t\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fcr. Ve her bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n varl\u0131\u011fa bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n zaman onun \u00f6zelliklerini g\u00f6rmekte kendini sevebilmek demektir. \u0130nsanlara kar\u015f\u0131 onlardaki bulunan \u00f6zellikleri de dillendirmek ayr\u0131ca bir \u00f6zg\u00fcven sahibi olmak demek. Dikkat et \u00e7o\u011funluk olarak etraf\u0131m\u0131z hep gizli sakl\u0131 alttan \u00fcstten seni beni onu bunu habire k\u00f6t\u00fcleyenlerle dolu ve kendi kendimizi k\u00f6t\u00fc hissetmemizi sa\u011flarlar. Bunu genelde narsistler yapar onlar\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fc alemi bir ba\u015fka g\u00f6r\u00fcr, beyinlerinde kan bir ba\u015fka akar ve insan\u0131 o aleme g\u00f6re yarg\u0131larlar. Oysaki sen birisine g\u00fczel bir s\u00f6z s\u00f6yledi\u011finde kendi i\u00e7indeki g\u00fczellik cevherini parlat\u0131rs\u0131n. <\/span><\/p>\n

K\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck yapan yarat\u0131klar kendilerine g\u00fcvensizlik duyduklar\u0131ndan (= kendilerini sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde sevemediklerinden) dolay\u0131 k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck yaparlar bir de bunu marifet bilirler kendilerini ba\u015fkalar\u0131ndan da bu sayede daha da bir \u00fcst\u00fcn g\u00f6r\u00fcrler. \u0130yilik yapmaya g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc olup gayretler eden insanlar\u0131n ise kalplerine kendileriyle ilgili bir bar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k gelir, kendi kendilerini kafaya art\u0131k pek fazla takmazlar. Onlar kendilerini \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya ve g\u00fczel i\u015fler \u00fcretmeye adarlar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ben zaten de kendini sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde alg\u0131layarak sevebilmenin de zeka orant\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n y\u00fcksekli\u011fiyle ilgili oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. Bana g\u00f6re insan\u0131n ruhunu zedelemeye u\u011fra\u015fan her t\u00fcr icrat ki\u015finin kendisini benimsememi\u015f olmas\u0131yla kaynakl\u0131d\u0131r: O ki\u015fi \u00e7o\u00e7ukken sevilmemi\u015ftir ve oldu\u011fu gibi onaylanmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r ve hep a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lan\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bu \u015feytani ahlak boyutu da \u00e7o\u00e7u\u011fa devredildi\u011finde o \u00e7o\u00e7ukta ileride ayn\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015fkalar\u0131na uyguluyor. Anne baba \u00e7o\u00e7u\u011fu bu denli korkutmay\u0131 ba\u015farabildikleri i\u00e7in de \u00e7o\u00e7u\u011fun ruh DNAs\u0131 k\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f oluyor. Bu tabii ki genetikte o \u00e7o\u00e7u\u011fa atalar\u0131ndan (\u00f6rne\u011fin Dedesinin Dedesinden de) dev\u015firilmi\u015f olabilir. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar\u0131m esnas\u0131nda \u00e7ok defa denk geldim ben bir\u00e7ok Annebaba \u00e7o\u00e7uklar\u0131na “terbiye – k\u00fclt\u00fcr – ahlak“ vs. ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda kurallar koyarak o \u00e7o\u00e7u\u011fun o kurallar\u0131 (Anababan\u0131n \u015fahsi putlar\u0131n\u0131) aman ha k\u0131rmamas\u0131n\u0131n gerekti\u011fini vurgulamay\u0131 ba\u015farm\u0131\u015ft\u0131rlar. Ebeveyn i\u015fte tam b\u00f6ylelikle kendi – \u00e7ok ha\u015fa – tanr\u0131\u00e7al\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 evlad\u0131na a\u015f\u0131l\u0131yor. \u00c7o\u00e7uk sonra zannediyor ki “Annem hep do\u011frular\u0131 s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor“. Bunun alt\u0131nda as\u0131l yatan ise \u015fu, Anababa’n\u0131n ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve ya\u015fatt\u0131\u011f\u0131 hayat\u0131 sak\u0131n ha sorgulamamak ve de sorgulatmamak. \u00c7o\u00e7ukta sorgulamay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmedi\u011fi i\u00e7in o Anababay\u0131 da hi\u00e7 bir zaman sorgulam\u0131yor. Ger\u00e7ekten de bu \u015fekilde ya\u015fayan birisi bana g\u00f6re tamamen bir bitkisel hayatta ve komadad\u0131r, hemde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu. Bu tam bir ill\u00fczyon boyutudur ve de kendisini ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 bir \u015fekilde do\u011fru olanlara kar\u015f\u0131 tamamen uyu\u015fturmu\u015f bir ruh halidir. <\/span><\/p>\n

Kendini sevme ve yeterli ve hatta hayatta ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olma olgusunu i\u00e7selle\u015ftirmek istiyorsak e\u011fer, \u00f6nce “bana ne iyi gelir?“ bunun pe\u015finden gitmeliyiz. Onu bunu \u015funu mutlu etmek de\u011fil, “ben ne ile mutlu olurum?“ diye sormakt\u0131r kendine. Ha bir de tabii ki sezgiler var, onlar kalbimizin sesi. Allah ile aram\u0131zdaki bulunan ipin sesi. Sezgilerimizin pe\u015finden ne kadar \u00e7ok gitmeyi ba\u015farabilirsek e\u011fer o kadar da \u00e7ok huzurlu ve kendini benimsemi\u015f olan birisi olarak hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ya\u015far\u0131z.
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En b\u00fcy\u00fck sava\u015f, cahilli\u011fe kar\u015f\u0131 yap\u0131lan sava\u015ft\u0131r. ATAT\u00dcRK <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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