{"id":154,"date":"2021-11-23T06:03:12","date_gmt":"2021-11-23T05:03:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/?p=154"},"modified":"2022-07-28T07:45:52","modified_gmt":"2022-07-28T05:45:52","slug":"kendine-gueven-olgusu-b","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/index.php\/2021\/11\/23\/kendine-gueven-olgusu-b\/","title":{"rendered":"Kendini bilme duygusu (b)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Kendimizi ne zaman biliriz acep? <\/span><\/p>\n

Bug\u00fcnk\u00fc anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131ma g\u00f6re insan\u0131n kendini bilip tan\u0131mas\u0131, yani insan – habire – ta derinliklerindeki bulunan zararl\u0131 davran\u0131\u015f \u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcleriyle y\u00fczle\u015fme tutkusuna tutuldu\u011fu zaman, o vakit anl\u0131yor ki y\u00fczle\u015fme denilen ruhi mekanizman\u0131n bir sonunun olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hatta bulunmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131. Sonu yok ki\u015fisel geli\u015fmenin senin anlayaca\u011f\u0131n. Oldum bittim filan b\u00f6yle bir \u015fey yok. Hep ve s\u00fcrekli ruhi bir olma\/olu\u015fum\/geli\u015fim\/hallenme halindeyiz.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Senin g\u00f6nl\u00fcn de\u011fi\u015firse, d\u00fcnya de\u011fi\u015fir. \u015eems-i Tebriz’i <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum say\u0131s\u0131zca kal\u0131plar\u0131mla y\u00fczle\u015firken ve her bir kal\u0131pla y\u00fczle\u015fdi\u011fimde y\u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fcn ve tabii ki de ruhumun ac\u0131 ile dolup ta\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131. \u0130nsan ona yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f olan ihanetin ger\u00e7ek ve so\u011fuk y\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fc hissedince “aman Allah’\u0131m hi\u00e7 mi bitmeyecek\/bir son bulmayacak bu y\u00fczle\u015fme prosed\u00fcr\u00fc?!!“ diye elbette soruveriyor kendisine. Ac\u0131n\u0131n son bulmas\u0131n\u0131 istiyor insan. Ama ruhen olgunla\u015fman\u0131n bir sonu yok, anla\u015f\u0131lan o ki do\u011fas\u0131 bu. <\/span><\/p>\n

Bu insana \u00e7ok ac\u0131 veren olgunla\u015fmay\u0131 ben art\u0131k \u015funa benzetiyorum: \u00d6nce sevdi\u011fin a\u011fa\u00e7 fidesini topra\u011fa ekersin, sonra onun b\u00fcy\u00fcmesini izlersin. Bilirsin ki fidan geli\u015ftik\u00e7e de topra\u011fa \u00e7il salar, \u00e7ili salar ki alttan k\u00f6k ba\u011flas\u0131n ki , g\u00f6\u011fe do\u011fru uzanabile\/b\u00fcy\u00fcye. Ve ancak belli bir ya\u015ftan sonra o fidan meyve vermeye ba\u015fl\u0131yor. \u0130lk y\u0131llardaki meyveleri \u00e7elimsiz filan ve az\u0131nl\u0131kta oluyor. Ama y\u0131llar ge\u00e7tik\u00e7e \u00fczerinden \u00f6yle lezzetli meyveler vermeye ba\u015fl\u0131yor ki insan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor “topraktan sudan nas\u0131l da yeti\u015fti\/yeti\u015febildi bu umman lezzetli meyve?!“ <\/span>Ben ekmi\u015f oldu\u011fum a\u011fa\u00e7lar\u0131m\u0131 hep b\u00f6yle izlemi\u015fimdir habire ve y\u0131llarca. Onlar\u0131 izlemekte ayr\u0131 bir ser\u00fcven ve sonsuz huzur. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u0130nsan\u0131n kendini bilmesi de i\u015fte b\u00f6yle: Her y\u00fczle\u015fti\u011fin an\u0131nla, gerekse ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n sana yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f olan ihanetini gerekse kendin zaman\u0131n birisinde do\u011fru bildi\u011fin bir kal\u0131b\u0131n tamamen ne kadar da ters oldu\u011funu anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, her defas\u0131nda ruhen olgunla\u015f\u0131yor insan. Bilgisine derin bilgiler katt\u0131k\u00e7a da insan daha da bir donan\u0131ml\u0131 oluyor. Elbette bu donan\u0131m insan\u0131 yeni birisiyle tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ister istemez sordurtuyor “acaba bu ki\u015fi beni hangi hen\u00fcz daha gizli sakl\u0131 olan kal\u0131plar\u0131mla y\u00fczle\u015ftirecek?!“ diye. Ve o vakit insan\u0131 da bir korku kapl\u0131yor. \u0130nsan korkuyor kal\u0131b\u0131yla y\u00fczle\u015fmekten hemde \u00e7ok \u00e7ok korkuyor. Zaten as\u0131l var olan ger\u00e7ekleri inkar edenler var ya i\u015fte bu y\u00fczle\u015fmekten \u00e7ok\u00e7a korktuklar\u0131 i\u00e7in b\u00f6yle bir \u015feyi hemen yok say\u0131yorlar. Sanki onu yok say\u0131nca yok oluverecek, bu m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc?! Bu sadece bir delilik bana g\u00f6re. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Ve her y\u00fczle\u015fme ayn\u0131 zamanda da kendisini bilme\/tan\u0131ma a\u015famas\u0131nda biraz daha y\u00fcksek ve sonsuz merdiveni yukar\u0131ya do\u011fru bir ad\u0131m daha \u00e7\u0131kabilmi\u015fliktir. Bu olgunla\u015fmalar insan\u0131 ruhen \u00f6yle bir hale getiriyor ki insan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131nda da art\u0131k kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u00f6zlerinde de o s\u00f6zlerine bir keskinlik ve \u00e7eviklik ve derinlik geliyor. Davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 da ba\u015fka insanlara rol model oluyor, ayr\u0131ca ki\u015finin kendisine de rehberlik yap\u0131yor bu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131. Yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131n yaz\u0131lar, y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn yol konu\u015ftu\u011fun\/kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131n kelimelerin etraf\u0131ndaki insanlarda derin izler b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissediyorsun. Daha bir emniyetli oluyorsun, y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn yolun a\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n zorluklar\u0131n tam da ve dosdo\u011fru oldu\u011funu art\u0131k tamamen i\u00e7selle\u015ftiriyorsun.<\/span> <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Kendine g\u00fcvensiz insanlarla da kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda onlar senin bu emin olu\u015fundan \u00e7ok \u00fcrk\u00fcyorlar ama bu tamamen onlar\u0131n sorunu.<\/span> Ve ba\u015fl\u0131yorlar seni d\u00f6rt bir k\u00f6\u015feden ba\u015fkalar\u0131na kesmeye ve k\u00f6t\u00fclemeye ve a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lamaya. Ve sen bunlar\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyorsun\/hissediyorsun, hatta sana b\u00f6yle yapan yarat\u0131klar\u0131n korkudan neler yapabileceklerini de g\u00f6r\u00fcyorsun! Onlar\u0131n gariple\u015fmeleri sana o kadar tuhaf ve komik geliyor ki, onlar\u0131n o hallerinde kendilerinin g\u00f6remedi\u011fini\/g\u00f6rmedi\u011fini sana y\u00fcce kudret Cenab Allah g\u00f6steriyor!: Allah sana gaibinden g\u00f6rmeyi nasip ediyor. Ve o bozguncu ve d\u00fc\u015fman tayfas\u0131 seni elaleme keserken\/k\u00f6t\u00fclerken, esasen sen o ki\u015finin nas\u0131l da kendi kendisiyle alay etti\u011fini g\u00f6r\u00fcyorsun: Bir insan\u0131n kendi ruh hallerinden haberdar olmay\u0131\u015f\u0131\/olamay\u0131\u015f\u0131 ona “hediye“ edilmi\u015f en b\u00fcy\u00fck ve sonsuz bir alayd\u0131r bana g\u00f6re: D\u00fc\u015fman d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131k pe\u015findeyken alay edilen birisi konumuna indirgeniyor, kalp g\u00f6z\u00fcyle onun bu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmek nasip olan insanlarda bunu g\u00f6r\u00fcyorlar.. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Bilmek olgusu ayr\u0131ca da – kay\u0131ts\u0131z \u015farts\u0131z – \u015fu ki, senin – onlara ra\u011fmen – ba\u015fka bir yol se\u00e7me cesaretini g\u00f6stermi\u015f olman ve de o i\u00e7i d\u0131\u015f\u0131 Allah’s\u0131zl\u0131ktan koku\u015fmu\u015f\/\u00e7\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f sisteme hizmet eden s\u00fcr\u00fcden ayr\u0131lmay\u0131 g\u00f6ze alm\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u015fte bu o d\u00fc\u015fman tayfas\u0131n\u0131 daha da \u00fcrk\u00fct\u00fcr, d\u00fc\u015fman daha da azar ve sald\u0131rganla\u015f\u0131r. D\u00fc\u015fman art\u0131k kime ve neye sald\u0131raca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u015fa\u015f\u0131r\u0131r. O kendisini bir numaral\u0131 “Assolist“ olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcrken birisi geliyor ve onun \u015fovunu elinden \u00e7al\u0131yor, bu hi\u00e7 olacak i\u015f mi?! Ama ancak Allah belirler assolistli\u011fi ve kimin \u015fov kimin \u015fov olmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131! <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

E\u011fer kendini bilmek ve tan\u0131mak istiyorsan, gelmi\u015f oldu\u011fun s\u00fclalen\/topluluk e\u011fer atalar\u0131n\u0131n dediklerine (ruhsal putlara) devam tapan ki\u015filerse, bil ki o s\u00fcr\u00fcden ayr\u0131lman gerek. Senin imtihan\u0131nda bu. Biliyorum \u00e7ok zor. \u00c7ok \u00e7ok \u00e7ok zor, ben kendi can\u0131mda bunu ya\u015fad\u0131m!: Ben Annebaba sevgisine tamamen mahrum ya\u015fad\u0131m. \u0130haneti onlarda g\u00f6rd\u00fcm, onlar ihaneti \u00e7ok normal bir \u015feymi\u015f gibi ya\u015f\u0131yorlard\u0131. Onlar Din ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda g\u00fcnah\u0131 sevap sevab\u0131 da g\u00fcnah g\u00f6stermeyi ba\u015farm\u0131\u015flard\u0131 bana. Ve \u00e7ok ge\u00e7 anlad\u0131m ki e\u011fer kal\u0131plar\u0131mla y\u00fczle\u015feceksem bunu o aile ortam\u0131n\u0131 terk ederek yapmam\u0131n gerekti\u011fini. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc onlar ba\u015fka boyutun yap\u0131lar\u0131 ve onlar\u0131n “ya\u015fam\u0131“ bana \u00e7ok \u00e7ok frans\u0131zd\u0131. Bug\u00fcn art\u0131k eminim onlar tamamen bir ruhsal komada hatta bitkisel hayattalar: Kendilerini bilmiyorlar, yani ruhsal dolay\u0131s\u0131yla da v\u00fccutsal \u015fuurlar\u0131 kapal\u0131. \u015euuru a\u00e7\u0131k olan insan, insan olma derdine d\u00fc\u015fer \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc, o ki\u015fi as\u0131l ger\u00e7ekleri ortaya d\u00f6kme derdine d\u00fc\u015fer. O kendisiyle u\u011fra\u015f\u0131r, d\u00fc\u015fman tayfas\u0131 gibi o bu \u015fununla de\u011fil. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsene ruhsal olmak ve geli\u015fmek i\u00e7in, hakikate uymayan ne varsa onu bulup bilip ve b\u0131rakman gerekiyor: K\u00f6klerini b\u0131rak\u0131yorsun! Psikolojik derslerde defalarca \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015ftim: \u0130nsan k\u00f6klerini kaybedince kendi k\u00f6k\u00fcn\u00fc de kaybetmi\u015f oluyor. Ve k\u00f6ks\u00fcz kalm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k demek s\u00fcrekli s\u00fcren bir depresyon demektir. Travmatik bir depresyon demek. Asl\u0131nda Araf tam da buras\u0131. \u0130nsan Arafa d\u00fc\u015fer ki do\u011fru yolu bula\/bulmaya koyula. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00d6yle oldum demeyle olmuyor i\u015fte, olman\u0131n umman zorluklar\u0131 da var ama Allah insana sabretmeyi \u00f6\u011fretiyor bu sayede.. Ve do\u011fru yoldan ilerledik\u00e7e de i\u00e7ine insansal sevgi ak\u0131yor. Sevgi dolu g\u00f6zlerle insanlara bak\u0131yorsun art\u0131k. Ruhen ve v\u00fccuten kimyan de\u011fi\u015fiyor, sevgiye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor.<\/span>
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Se\u00e7im senin: Ya ruhunun hisseti\u011fi ve akl\u0131n\u0131n bildi\u011fi do\u011fruluk nam\u0131na ne varsa, yani adaleti ve adalete ait olan her\u015feyden yana olacaks\u0131n ya da adaletsizli\u011fi se\u00e7eceksin: Ya Allah’\u0131n emretti\u011fi yoldan ilerleyeceksin ya da sana k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc emredenlerden yana olacaks\u0131n. \u0130mtihan demek bana g\u00f6re esasen bu. Karar senin.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Ek bilgi: Ben Assolist kelimesini yaz\u0131mda kullan\u0131rken biline ki, ben hayat\u0131m\u0131 \u00f6mr\u00fcm boyunca pozitif bir anlamda bana say\u0131s\u0131zca defa rol model olmu\u015f olan t\u00fcm – adalete hizmet etmi\u015f olan – Assolistlerin yap\u0131tlar\u0131na ve umman rehberliklerine kar\u015f\u0131n onlara kar\u015f\u0131 ancak sayg\u0131yla e\u011filiyor ve onlar\u0131 sevgiyle kucakl\u0131yorum. Sizlere \u00e7ok \u00e7ok te\u015fekk\u00fcrler ederim, siz bana hayat\u0131m\u0131n en en en karanl\u0131k d\u00f6nemlerinde ruhuma yans\u0131yan dev bir \u0131\u015f\u0131k oldunuz. \u0130yi ki vars\u0131n\u0131z. Ayla Kurt<\/span><\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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