{"id":211,"date":"2021-11-27T06:22:09","date_gmt":"2021-11-27T05:22:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/?p=211"},"modified":"2022-10-18T09:24:01","modified_gmt":"2022-10-18T07:24:01","slug":"5-kendine-karsi-derin-bir-guevensizlik","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/index.php\/2021\/11\/27\/5-kendine-karsi-derin-bir-guevensizlik\/","title":{"rendered":"5. Kendine kar\u015f\u0131 derin bir g\u00fcvensizlik"},"content":{"rendered":"

Narsizm olay\u0131nda kendine kar\u015f\u0131 derin g\u00fcvensizli\u011fin alt\u0131nda yatan temel kal\u0131p, anababan\u0131n bu \u00e7o\u00e7uktan \u00fcmitlerini – o \u00e7o\u00e7uk ana rahmine d\u00fc\u015fer d\u00fc\u015fmez belki de daha evvelinden! – tamamen kesmi\u015f olmalar\u0131 hatta hi\u00e7bir zaman o \u00e7o\u00e7u\u011fun as\u0131l i\u00e7 kabiliyetlerinin ortalara d\u00f6k\u00fclmesini sa\u011flamam\u0131\u015f olmalar\u0131 ve dahi ruhsal gereksinimlerinin kar\u015f\u0131lanmam\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsano\u011flu kabiliyetlerinden dolay\u0131 ve dahas\u0131 onlar\u0131n yo\u011funlu\u011fundan dolay\u0131 da erdemli\u011fe do\u011fru yol al\u0131r.<\/span>
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Bu konuya ilintili ve ba\u011flant\u0131l\u0131 olan di\u011fer meselede \u015fu ki narsizmde narsistlerin i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e kendi i\u00e7lerinde kurgulam\u0131\u015f olduklar\u0131 *senaryolar mevcuttur. Daha do\u011frusu, yeni gelen nesiller atalar\u0131n\u0131n y\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f olduklar\u0131 \u015feytani yoldan y\u00fcr\u00fcmeyi tercih ettikleri i\u00e7in bu neslinde do\u011fru yoldan ayr\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 veren Kur’an ayetlerine bir g\u00f6z atarak, s\u00f6ze devam edelim:
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Ya\u015far Nuri \u00d6zt\u00fcrk meali<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n

Hud 109: <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n

\u015eunlar\u0131n kulluk etmekte olduklar\u0131 \u015feyler y\u00fcz\u00fcnden bir ku\u015fku i\u00e7ine girme. Daha \u00f6nce atalar\u0131n\u0131n kulluk ettikleri gibi kulluk ediyorlar, hepsi bu. Biz onlar\u0131n da nasiplerini hi\u00e7 eksiltmeden elbette verece\u011fiz.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n
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*Atalar\u0131n\u0131n bulunmu\u015f oldu\u011fu tapma sistemlerini yeni gelen nesil de aynen tatbik etti\u011fi i\u00e7in, narsistin i\u00e7ine yani ruhuna narsizm ate\u015fi tutu\u015fturulur. Bu yan konuyuda burada anlatm\u0131\u015f olmam\u0131n as\u0131l nedeni ise, d\u00fcnyaya yeni gelmi\u015f olan ki\u015finin, hem genetik a\u00e7\u0131dan hemde ileriki ya\u015flarda yeti\u015ftirilmi\u015f olma tarz\u0131ndan da dolay\u0131 narsizme kilitlenmi\u015f olabilmesidir. \u0130sterse bir narsistin anababas\u0131 sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 olsun, e\u011fer ki dedede sorun var ise bu ileride kendisini torunun torununda g\u00f6sterebilir. Demem o ki, yeni gelen nesil isterse kendine g\u00fcven i\u00e7inde e\u011fitilsin, e\u011fer ki o ki\u015finin i\u00e7inde narsizm ate\u015fi var ise, ona e\u011fitilmi\u015f olan kendine g\u00fcven onun i\u00e7inde ba\u015fka bir karakter yap\u0131s\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

D\u00f6nelim \u015fimdi tekrar ana temaya, e\u011fer ki bir anababa \u00e7o\u00e7u\u011funa en ba\u015ftan onun anababas\u0131na g\u00fcvenme duygusunu verememi\u015fse, bu \u00e7o\u00e7uk yeti\u015fkinlik \u00e7a\u011f\u0131na geldi\u011finde tamamen kendine kar\u015f\u0131 g\u00fcvensiz olacakt\u0131r. Bir anababa evlad\u0131na g\u00fcvenmez ise hi\u00e7 evlat ileride kendi kendine g\u00fcvenir mi? Peki bu ki\u015fi ileride evlendi\u011finde e\u015fi veya \u00e7o\u00e7uklar\u0131 ona g\u00fcvenebilirler mi??
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Kendine g\u00fcvendir insan\u0131 insan eden, insan\u0131 ak\u0131ll\u0131 kararlar almaya do\u011fru ve sa\u011flam ad\u0131mlar basmaya iten. Kendine g\u00fcvendir sevginin di\u011fer ad\u0131 ve insan\u0131n cesur olabili\u015fi. Kendine g\u00fcven her gitti\u011fi ve dokundu\u011fu yerlere bar\u0131\u015flar sa\u00e7ar ve g\u00fcvenler verir. Sezgilerin temelinde de kendi sezgilerine g\u00fcvenden dolay\u0131 onlar\u0131 oldu\u011fu gibi uygulama modu yatar. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sezgiler bana g\u00f6re Allah’a ba\u011fland\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\/ba\u011flanabildi\u011fimiz ipin sembolizmidir.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Bu arada belirtmeliyim ki, egosunu \u015fi\u015fkin hale getirmi\u015f olan \u00b4ben her\u015feyi en iyi bilirim ve benim kendime g\u00fcvenim tam‘ tiplemesinden bahsetmiyorum ben! Hakiki ve i\u00e7ten \u00e7\u0131nar gibi akarak gelen kendine g\u00fcvenme olgusunu etraf\u0131na s\u0131cac\u0131k ve yumo\u015f bir \u015fekilde yaymas\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131k \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015f olan erdemlerden anlat\u0131yorum ben. Ger\u00e7ek g\u00fcven beraberinde zatende toplumun o ki\u015fiye g\u00fcveni\u015fini de getirme kudretine sahiptir.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Ve ancak Allah’a g\u00fcvenmeyi i\u00e7selle\u015ftirmeyi ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z an, ba\u015flar\u0131z kendimize g\u00fcvenmeye.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Ne kadar \u00f6zg\u00fcven o kadar ba\u015far\u0131. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Nevzat Tarhan<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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