{"id":214,"date":"2021-11-27T06:22:59","date_gmt":"2021-11-27T05:22:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/?p=214"},"modified":"2022-10-17T10:03:35","modified_gmt":"2022-10-17T08:03:35","slug":"6-empati-eksikligi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/index.php\/2021\/11\/27\/6-empati-eksikligi\/","title":{"rendered":"6. Empati eksikli\u011fi"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011funun en bariz bir \u015fekilde ortalara yay\u0131p d\u00f6kt\u00fc\u011f\u00fc bir di\u011fer kardinal semptomu ise bir yoksunluk g\u00f6stergesi olarak empati eksikli\u011fidir. Bana g\u00f6re bu dev zay\u0131fl\u0131k ayn\u0131 zamanda da ne yaz\u0131k ki benim hayat\u0131mda bizzat psikopatlar\/narsistler taraf\u0131ndan u\u011fram\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fum bir durumdur: Narsist veya psikopat senin a\u011fz\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kan ve ruhundan d\u00f6k\u00fclen seni ac\u0131tan ya da seni sevindiren hi\u00e7bir kelam\u0131 anlamaz!: Seni anlama kapasitesi yok! Seni anlayam\u0131yor! Sen ona ne dersen de o seni hi\u00e7bir zaman anlamayacakt\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc onun i\u00e7i d\u0131\u015f\u0131 adaletsizlik nam\u0131na ne varsa onunla dolu. Psikopat yap\u0131 olaylara kendi – i\u00e7inde bulundu\u011fu hastal\u0131k penceresinden – ancak bakabilen bir sistemdir.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Narsistin i\u00e7i d\u0131\u015f\u0131 ona atalar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan ezberletilmi\u015f ya da kendi kendine ders edip ezberlemi\u015f olanlardan ibarettir. Sen konu\u015fursun ve zannedersin ki seni anlad\u0131 ve ona g\u00f6re cevap veriyor. Hay\u0131r!, o ancak senin ona anlatm\u0131\u015f olduklar\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 onun i\u00e7erisinde hangi konular\/taraflar\/b\u00f6lmeler\/alg\u0131lar\/davran\u0131\u015f kal\u0131plar\u0131 o an tetiklendiyse, onlarla ilgili cevaplar al\u0131rs\u0131n. Onun i\u00e7i d\u0131\u015f\u0131 ancak kendine m\u00fcnhas\u0131rd\u0131r. Zaten sana cevap olarak anlatt\u0131klar\u0131 da ayr\u0131ca onun birer, tabiri caizse tavlamas\u0131 ve yemlemesidir (manip\u00fclasyonu). Seni kendisine inand\u0131rmak i\u00e7in yapar bunu: Kendisi kendisine inanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in seni kendisine inand\u0131rmaya efor harcar durur.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Senin ve tabii ki de benim de anlayaca\u011f\u0131n\/anlam\u0131\u015f olduklar\u0131m\u0131z \u015fudur ki esasen biz kalabal\u0131klar aras\u0131nda maalesef yapayaln\u0131z\u0131z. Elzemdir ki b\u00fcy\u00fck bir gereksinimdir ruhumuzun birileri taraf\u0131ndan ger\u00e7ekten ve yalans\u0131z dolans\u0131z anla\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131. Ger\u00e7ekten etraf\u0131m\u0131zdakilerin bir\u00e7o\u011fu da zanneder ki sohbet ediyoruz\/ediliyor oysaki o sohbet geyik muhabbetinden farks\u0131zd\u0131r ve narsistin bo\u015f z\u0131rvalamalar\u0131ndan ibarettir. Hatta biz psikopatla sohbete devam etti\u011fimizde onun say\u0131s\u0131zca bizi a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lamalar\u0131na, ucuzlatmalar\u0131na ve manip\u00fclasyonuna u\u011fram\u0131\u015f oluruz ve ruhen o an zede almaya ba\u015flar\u0131z.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Bu y\u00fczdendir ki benim psikopatlara kar\u015f\u0131 gizli veya a\u00e7\u0131ktan s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m vard\u0131r, onlar\u0131n bana yakla\u015fmas\u0131na ve bana dolay\u0131s\u0131yla zarar vermelerine kar\u015f\u0131n s\u00fcrekli ve habire e\u011fitimler al\u0131yorum. Eski davran\u0131\u015f kal\u0131plar\u0131m o zaman\u0131n d\u00f6nemindeki k\u00f6le konumundaki bulunmu\u015f oldu\u011fum \u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fclerimdi ve y\u0131llard\u0131r onlar\u0131 temizleyip yerlerine ise tertemiz ve hem kendime hemde insanlara faydal\u0131 olabilecek olan ahlak ve edep anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 her daim \u00f6\u011frenmeyi kendime prensip bildim hep.
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Ve bil ki \u015fu an etraf\u0131nda d\u00f6nen dolanan bir\u00e7ok ili\u015fki t\u00fcrlerinin neredeyse \u00e7o\u011fu ili\u015fki ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve \u00e7\u0131kar\/menfaat \u00fczerine kurulu. Sevgiymi\u015f, ger\u00e7ek dostlukmu\u015f, g\u00fcvenmi\u015f bunlar \u00e7ok kutsal duygular ve her yi\u011fit bunlar\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten hissedemez\/hissetmez. Sadece m\u0131\u015f gibi yapar\/oynar i\u015fte o kadar, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc dersini \u00e7ok \u00e7ok iyi ezberlemi\u015ftir. Hatta onlar i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e samimi olan ki\u015filere kar\u015f\u0131 bir de gizli gizli bu\u011fzlar ederek o ki\u015fiyi bir de kendilerine d\u00fc\u015fman bellerler. Zaten narsist kendi kendine – s\u00fcrekli hemde! – bir d\u00fc\u015fman yarat\u0131r ve o d\u00fc\u015fmanla hem bizzat hemde hayal aleminde habire sava\u015f\u0131r\/didi\u015fir\/kendisini \u00e7ok ak\u0131ll\u0131ym\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00f6stermeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r durur. Oysaki o tam bir bunak, hemde d\u00fcnyaca yasalla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bir bunak. Toplumun ahlak\u0131n\u0131 habire bozgunculu\u011fa u\u011frat\u0131r, millet de buna g\u00fcler ge\u00e7er ya da hi\u00e7 umursamaz! \u015eaka\/latife ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda yapar bunu narsist oysaki alt\u0131ndaki yatan as\u0131l mekanizma herkesle alay edip dalgas\u0131n\u0131 ge\u00e7erek kendisini herkesten \u00fcst\u00fcn g\u00f6sterme delili\u011fidir!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Cahil insanlar davul gibidir. Sesi \u00e7ok \u00e7\u0131kar ama i\u00e7i bo\u015ftur. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Sadi \u015eirazi <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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