{"id":220,"date":"2021-11-27T06:25:39","date_gmt":"2021-11-27T05:25:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/?p=220"},"modified":"2022-10-08T10:22:05","modified_gmt":"2022-10-08T08:22:05","slug":"8-basarisizlik-ve-ona-karsi-yenik-duesmuesluek-duygusu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/index.php\/2021\/11\/27\/8-basarisizlik-ve-ona-karsi-yenik-duesmuesluek-duygusu\/","title":{"rendered":"8. Ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k ve ona kar\u015f\u0131 yenik d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015fl\u00fck duygusu"},"content":{"rendered":"

Bana kal\u0131rsa narsist yap\u0131n\u0131n belki de en korktu\u011fu ve en en derinliklerinde saklad\u0131\u011f\u0131 kal\u0131b\u0131 ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa u\u011frama ve ona yenik d\u00fc\u015fme ve hatta bu olay olaki bir de hele hele ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 toplum i\u00e7erisinde bizzat olacak olursa, bunun ger\u00e7ekle\u015febilmesi ihtimali onun en \u00e7ekindi\u011fi noktalar\u0131ndan bir di\u011feridir bence. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc o zaten anababas\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan tamda ona bu \u015fekilde davran\u0131larak kilitlenildi.<\/span>
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Bir insan s\u00fcrekli bir tak\u0131m akl\u0131 kesmez, insanl\u0131k nedir bilmeyen ve dahi insanl\u0131ktan nasibini almam\u0131\u015f olan birisi taraf\u0131ndan bu \u015fekilde yerilip habire gergin halde tutulunca, elbette yetersizli\u011fin her \u00e7e\u015fidine tutulur. Ama elzemdir ki ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131za (ruhumuza yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f olan) gelen her olay\u0131n bizi insanl\u0131k mertebesinde bir ad\u0131m daha pozitiviteye do\u011fru yol olabilmemiz i\u00e7in geliyor. Ama biz ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zdan ders \u00e7\u0131kartma zahmetine katlanamaz isek elbette ruhsal anlamda oldu\u011fumuz yerde devam d\u00f6ner dururuz ve \u00e7ok cehalet ve sefalet bir ruh hali i\u00e7erisinde \u00f6teki aleme intikal ederiz.
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Ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k korkusunun temelinde yatan sebeplerden birisi yetersizlik duygusu bir di\u011feri ise herhangi bir konuda kaybetme korkular\u0131d\u0131r. Bu korku t\u00fcr\u00fc de narsistte \u00e7ok\u00e7a yo\u011fundur, hatta kardinal semptomdur. Oysaki narsist aileye do\u011fmu\u015f bir ki\u015fi en ba\u015ftan anababas\u0131n\u0131n sevgisini, onlar sevmeyi beceremedikleri\/hi\u00e7 bilmedikleri i\u00e7in, zaten hi\u00e7 alg\u0131layamama durumuna hapsolmu\u015ftur. \u0130nsan bilmedi\u011fi\/tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131\/onu hi\u00e7bir zaman hissetmedi\u011fi\/alg\u0131lamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir duyguyu hi\u00e7 ya\u015famad\u0131 ki onu da kaybedebilsin. Narsizm de varsa yoksa \u00e7\u0131kar ve ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar \u00f6n plandad\u0131r, onlar sevgiye tamamen frans\u0131zd\u0131rlar.
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\u0130nsanlar\u0131n bir\u00e7o\u011fu da zannediyor ki \u00b4ben bir aileye do\u011fdum sevilip ve say\u0131l\u0131yorum..‘ Hay\u0131r!, sen, kendine aile ad\u0131n\u0131 vermi\u015f olan bir cahil \u00f6rg\u00fcte\/sisteme\/ak\u0131nt\u0131ya\/\u00e7\u0131kar ili\u015fkisinin i\u00e7ine d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcn ve o sistemin belli ba\u015fl\u0131 mekanizmalar\u0131yla ya\u015famaya travmatize oldun. Sen bir sistematik fonksiyonalite konumundas\u0131n o \u00f6r\u00fcmcek a\u011f\u0131na benzeyen a\u011f da.
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O a\u011f\u0131n bir ba\u015f y\u00f6neticisi vard\u0131r bu a\u011f\u0131 da zaten kendisi bizzat kendi davran\u0131\u015f kal\u0131plar\u0131n\u0131n yan etkilerini – doya doya yasalla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f\/toplum taraf\u0131ndan akseptans olmu\u015f bir \u015fekilde – \u00e7er\u00e7evesi i\u00e7erisinde\/do\u011frultusunda tamamen uyum halinde ya\u015fayabilmesi i\u00e7in kurmu\u015ftur o sistemi o ba\u015f y\u00f6netici. Bu sistemin t\u0131k\u0131r t\u0131k\u0131r i\u015flemesi i\u00e7in de say\u0131s\u0131zca yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken i\u015fleri vard\u0131r ve her bir i\u015fin\/kategorinin\/makam\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na da kafas\u0131na g\u00f6re – ruhsal uyumunu g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcnde bulundurarak – uygun g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc aile\/s\u00fclale fertlerini bilin\u00e7li olarak oturtmu\u015ftur o ba\u015f y\u00f6netici. Ve o aileye yeni gelecek olan nesillerin veya d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan o aileye mecburi evliliklerden dolay\u0131 giri\u015f yapacak ki\u015fininde kim ve ruhsal bazda nas\u0131l birisi olaca\u011f\u0131na da o y\u00f6netici karar verir. Dahas\u0131 ise s\u00fclaleye yeni gelmi\u015f olan ki\u015filere kar\u015f\u0131 da tam olarak nas\u0131l davran\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini de o y\u00f6netmen belirler ve akabinde ailesi ve s\u00fclalesini \u00f6yle bir k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rt\u0131r ki o yeni gelmi\u015f olana kar\u015f\u0131 o yeni gelen ki\u015fi bir s\u00fclaleye yeni giri\u015f yapt\u0131m derken, ne yaz\u0131k ki cehennem ate\u015fine giri\u015f yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Bir sat\u0131r \u00f6ncesi anlatm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fum e\u011fitimin ad\u0131 grup dinamikleridir, Allah’\u0131ma bin \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr ki yurt d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda epeyce e\u011fitimini alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m, iyi ki alm\u0131\u015f\u0131m, bir\u00e7ok grup\/kurulu\u015f\/vak\u0131f\/birliktelik\/\u015firket vs. ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda bulunan beraberlik a\u011flar\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7indeki d\u00f6nen dolaplar\u0131\/a\u011f\u0131\/\u00e7\u0131kar ileti\u015fimlerini\/davran\u0131\u015f kal\u0131p sistemlerini<\/span> bu e\u011fitim sayesinde \u00e7\u00f6zmesi \u00e7ok \u00e7ok kolay oluyor\ud83d\udc9c…<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Tekrar o ba\u015f y\u00f6netici diye adland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m yap\u0131ya d\u00f6nmek istiyorum. Aileye ve yeni do\u011fan bebe\u011fe kar\u015f\u0131 nas\u0131l davran\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini de o ba\u015f y\u00f6netici belirler. O ki\u015fi – etraf\u0131ndaki herkese kar\u015f\u0131 da – s\u00fcrekli olarak korkular ve deh\u015fetler sa\u00e7\u0131c\u0131 hali tutumu i\u00e7erisindedir.<\/span> O tam bir despottur ve negatif bir otorite k\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131ndad\u0131r. \u0130\u015fte onun bu tutumu etraf\u0131ndaki bulunan herkesi ya tetikler ya korkutur ya bir k\u00f6\u015feye s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r ve en ba\u015ftan etraf b\u00f6ylece travmatize edilir. Edilir ki yeni aileye gelen ki\u015filer de en ba\u015ftan iyi bellesinler o s\u00fclalede kimin – ve sadece kimin – s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn ge\u00e7ti\u011fini ve kimin lider olmu\u015f oldu\u011funu. Etraf\u0131ndaki bulunan herkese kar\u015f\u0131 bu t\u00fcr \u00e7ok \u00e7irkin, \u00e7ok edepsiz, \u00e7ok tamamen insan d\u0131\u015f\u0131, \u00e7ok zalim ve zorba olan tutumundaki herkesi buradan a\u00e7\u0131ktan ve net olarak k\u0131n\u0131yorum!!<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Osmanl\u0131\/T\u00fcrk Atas\u00f6z\u00fc <\/span><\/p>\n

Ma\u011frurlanma padi\u015fah\u0131m senden b\u00fcy\u00fck Allah var!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Evet, geldik yaz\u0131n\u0131n sonuna arkada\u015flar. \u015e\u00f6yle d\u00fcnya geneli olarak bu ba\u015f y\u00f6netmen (zalim\/zorba) tiplemesine bir g\u00f6z att\u0131\u011f\u0131mda g\u00f6rd\u00fcm ki onlar ya az\u0131l\u0131 psikopatlardan, ya gizli narsistlerden, ya kendisini tanr\u0131salla\u015ft\u0131rm\u0131\u015f \u015fizofrenlerden ya da ruhsal sorunu en \u00e7ok\/en \u00e7ok i\u00e7inde ta\u015f\u0131yan birilerinden olu\u015fmaktalar. Ve adalete inanan herkes ama herkes o y\u00f6netici bozuntular\u0131n\u0131 toplum g\u00f6z\u00fc \u00f6n\u00fcnde de\u015fifre etmek zorundad\u0131r.
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