{"id":256,"date":"2021-11-27T07:11:23","date_gmt":"2021-11-27T06:11:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/?p=256"},"modified":"2022-09-25T09:05:50","modified_gmt":"2022-09-25T07:05:50","slug":"15-her-tuer-iliski-bagimliligi-oezellikle-de-efendi-koele-yapisi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/index.php\/2021\/11\/27\/15-her-tuer-iliski-bagimliligi-oezellikle-de-efendi-koele-yapisi\/","title":{"rendered":"15. Her t\u00fcr ili\u015fki ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131: \u00f6zellikle de efendi k\u00f6le yap\u0131s\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k demek, hayat\u0131m\u0131zda herhangi bir \u015feyden asla vazge\u00e7emedi\u011fimizin duygusu\/alg\u0131s\u0131\/d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi ya da var say\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r ve eylemlerimize de yans\u0131m\u0131\u015f halidir bu hal. Esasen ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k durumunun alt\u0131nda yatan derin psikolojik sebeplerden biriside korkudur. Herhangi bir \u015feyden korkmak. Bu korku denen mekanizmas\u0131 de\u011fil mi ki bizi her\u015feye ama her\u015feye kilitleyen ve travmatize eden ill\u00fczyon. Oysaki i\u00e7imizdeki o korktu\u011fumuz her neyse onun tersi de olu\u015fabilir hayat\u0131m\u0131zda!, ama yok illa en k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc\/felaketlesini zihnimizde yarat\u0131p durmak zorunday\u0131z. Ah \u015fu korku!! Beni Allah’tan dahi ayr\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrme g\u00fcc\u00fcne sahip olan sanr\u0131…
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Herhangi bir \u015feyden korkmak: <\/span><\/p>\n

Kaybetmekten, <\/span><\/p>\n

toplumda ezilmekten k\u00f6t\u00fc bir duruma d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fclmekten, <\/span><\/p>\n

yaln\u0131z kalmaktan, <\/span><\/p>\n

paras\u0131z pulsuz sokaklara d\u00fc\u015fmekten, <\/span><\/p>\n

kimse taraf\u0131ndan sevilmemekten, <\/span><\/p>\n

ya\u015fanan toplumunun i\u00e7erisinden d\u0131\u015flan\u0131lmaktan, <\/span><\/p>\n

birileri taraf\u0131ndan anla\u015f\u0131lmam\u0131\u015f olmaktan, <\/span><\/p>\n

araba kazas\u0131 yapmaktan, <\/span><\/p>\n

toplumda \u00e7ok tutulan bir mesle\u011fin sahibi olamamaktan,
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hakikatleri s\u00f6ylemekten, <\/span><\/p>\n

zalim kanunlara kar\u015f\u0131 bizzat isyan edip onlar\u0131 ezip ge\u00e7ememekten, <\/span><\/p>\n

kendine g\u00fcvensizlikten… <\/span><\/p>\n

Listeyi kendi i\u00e7indekilere g\u00f6re devam et ve tamamla l\u00fctfen \ud83d\ude01
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Korku mekanizmas\u0131d\u0131r beni temelinde i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131m olaylara g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez bir iple ba\u011flay\u0131p ve ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 tutand\u0131r. Bu durumda i\u00e7ten \u00e7ok arzu etti\u011fimiz, ama bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc olu\u015fmayan\/olu\u015famayan o herhangi bir\u015fey efendi ve bizde onun art\u0131k k\u00f6lesi olmu\u015fuzdur. Bunun haricinde tabii ki bir de narsistlerdeki v\u00fccut bulmu\u015f efendi k\u00f6le ili\u015fkisine rastlamak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Narsistik yap\u0131n\u0131n bizi k\u00f6le haline getirme mekanizmalar\u0131ndan bir ka\u00e7\u0131 ve o bizden i\u015fte bunlar\u0131 s\u0131zd\u0131rmaya\/\u00e7almaya efor harcar \u00f6mr\u00fcbillah<\/span>
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kendisi kabullenmekten korktu\u011fu hatalar\u0131n\u0131 bize yans\u0131tarak onlar\u0131 bizim s\u0131rt\u0131m\u0131za y\u00fckler, <\/span><\/p>\n

onda duygular\u0131na terc\u00fcman olma yetene\u011fi tamamen eksik oldu\u011fundan dolay\u0131 onun duygular\u0131n\u0131 anlamam\u0131z\u0131 ve ona g\u00f6re ona kar\u015f\u0131 davranmam\u0131z\u0131 bize dayat\u0131r, <\/span><\/p>\n

onun a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 tembelli\u011fi ve dev sorumsuzlu\u011fu y\u00fcz\u00fcnden, onun yapmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u015fleri bizim yapmam\u0131z\u0131 bekler, <\/span><\/p>\n

havas\u0131na giremedi\u011fi anababa\/arkada\u015f\/karde\u015f\/akraba rol modelli\u011fini bizim \u00fcst\u00fcm\u00fcze atar ve bu rolleri oynamam\u0131z\u0131 bize dayat\u0131r, <\/span><\/p>\n

bizler sadece ve sadece onun hizmetini ve keyfiyetini ho\u015f tutmak i\u00e7in yarat\u0131ld\u0131k diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ve ona g\u00f6re hareket eder ve bize \u00f6yle davran\u0131r, <\/span><\/p>\n

ola ki bizi k\u0131skan\u0131pta rakip bellediyse o halde bizi toplumun bizzat g\u00f6z\u00fc \u00f6n\u00fcnde a\u015fa\u011f\u0131layarak g\u00f6zden d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r ki kendi o toplumun g\u00f6z\u00fcnde bir numara ola, <\/span><\/p>\n

e\u011fer s\u00fcrekli her\u015feye a\u011flayan tip narsistlerden ise (gizli\/kapal\u0131\/kapakl\u0131 narsist) o halde o envai\u00e7e\u015fit dramalar bizzat yaratarak kendi arzusuna ula\u015fma aya\u011f\u0131na yatar habire, <\/span><\/p>\n

bizi manip\u00fclasyon ederek, bizden istedi\u011fini elde etmeye gayretler eder d\u00f6ker, <\/span><\/p>\n

genelde – d\u00fcnyaca – \u015firketlerin en ba\u015f y\u00f6netimlerinde bulunmak ister ve bulunur ve oralara da kimseleri ayak bast\u0131rtmaz, <\/span><\/p>\n

kendisini herkesten ak\u0131ll\u0131, zeki, dahi ve bir de vazge\u00e7ilmez olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr, <\/span><\/p>\n

paraya pula, yata kata tapar ve dahi paran\u0131n g\u00fcc\u00fcyle insan olunabilece\u011fi kan\u0131s\u0131ndad\u0131r, <\/span><\/p>\n

genelde ateisttir, kafirdir, m\u00fcnaf\u0131kt\u0131r veya dinsiz tayfas\u0131ndand\u0131r, <\/span><\/p>\n

s\u0131rf kendi isteklerini bize mutlaka yapt\u0131rtmak i\u00e7in kap\u0131 kap\u0131 gezer ve bizi baz\u0131 ki\u015filerin g\u00f6z\u00fcnde pul gibi harcat\u0131r, <\/span><\/p>\n

toplumda onunla beraberken orac\u0131kta bize \u015faka ile kara\u015f\u0131k bizi rencide edecek s\u00f6zler s\u00f6yler, <\/span><\/p>\n

sinsidir, fitnedir, nifak\u00e7\u0131d\u0131r, \u00e7ok \u015f\u00fcphecidir, iki y\u00fczl\u00fcd\u00fcr, \u00e7ok ars\u0131z ve pi\u015fkindir, s\u00fcrekli laf sokan bir yap\u0131s\u0131 vard\u0131r, daima \u00f6fkelidir,
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s\u00fcrekli ve s\u00fcrekli yalan s\u00f6yler, hakikatten bahsetti\u011fi vakit de s\u0131rf kendi egosunu devam \u015fi\u015firmek i\u00e7in bahseder,
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ve kendisiyle tamamen \u00e7eli\u015fkiye d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f bir yap\u0131ya sahiptir, <\/span><\/p>\n

kendisinden nefret eden ve kendisinin ezikli\u011finden utanan bir ki\u015fidir, s\u00fcrekli \u00e7ok evhaml\u0131 ve \u00e7ok gergindir ama d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya kar\u015f\u0131 kendisini hep rahatm\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00f6sterir…<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Birer birer korkular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n esiri olmay\u0131 b\u0131rakmay\u0131 ba\u015farabildi\u011fimiz andan itibaren hemen ama hemen narsist yap\u0131n\u0131n k\u00f6lesi olmaktan kurtuluruz. Zira narsist bizdeki korkular\u0131 bildi\u011fi i\u00e7in oralardan girer hep kan\u0131m\u0131za.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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