{"id":262,"date":"2021-11-27T07:17:38","date_gmt":"2021-11-27T06:17:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/?p=262"},"modified":"2022-09-24T09:39:23","modified_gmt":"2022-09-24T07:39:23","slug":"17-icsel-yetersizlik-duygusundan-kaynaklanan-derin-asagilik-kompleksinin-tersine-doenuesuemueyle-kisinin-asiri-kibire-ve-bueyueklenmeye-tutulusu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/index.php\/2021\/11\/27\/17-icsel-yetersizlik-duygusundan-kaynaklanan-derin-asagilik-kompleksinin-tersine-doenuesuemueyle-kisinin-asiri-kibire-ve-bueyueklenmeye-tutulusu\/","title":{"rendered":"17. \u0130\u00e7sel yetersizlik duygusundan kaynaklanan derin a\u015fa\u011f\u0131l\u0131k kompleksinin tersine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fcyle ki\u015finin a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 kibire ve b\u00fcy\u00fcklenmeye tutulu\u015fu"},"content":{"rendered":"

Narsist hayat\u0131ndaki maruz kalm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu dev ac\u0131lar\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 – ki bunlar\u0131 en derinden bir yerlerinde yine de hissetmi\u015f oldu\u011fu inanc\u0131 i\u00e7erisindeyim ben, her ne kadar onda kutsal olan empat duygusu bulunmam\u0131\u015f olsa bile – bulundu\u011fu durumdan dolay\u0131 yine kendi eliyle ona buna etmi\u015f oldu\u011fu dev zul\u00fcm\u00fc hayat\u0131 boyunca sonsuz ac\u0131lar \u00e7ekerek \u00f6dedi\u011fi inanc\u0131 i\u00e7ersindeyim. <\/span>
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Bug\u00fcnk\u00fc konuda, narsistin s\u00fcbjektif olarak alttan alta \u00e7ekti\u011fi yetersizlik, de\u011fersizlik duygular\u0131ndan ve de a\u015fa\u011f\u0131l\u0131k kompleksinden (eziklik hissi) \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fc onda olu\u015fmu\u015f olan kibirlenme\/b\u00fcy\u00fcklenme\/b\u00fcy\u00fckl\u00fck taslama semptomlar\u0131n\u0131 inceleyece\u011fiz. Bu b\u00fcy\u00fcklenme semptomuna ben Firavunlar\u0131n hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 incelerken de yine \u00e7ok\u00e7a rast gelmi\u015ftim: Ha\u015fa ve \u00e7ok ha\u015fa Firavun denen yarat\u0131k kendini Tanr\u0131 ilan etmi\u015fti ve halk\u0131 da onun k\u00f6lesiydi yani – ha\u015fa – kullar\u0131yd\u0131. Bu g\u00fczel bir \u00f6rnekten de anlayabilirsin, bir aciz yarat\u0131\u011f\u0131n ne denli kendisini tepelere\/zirvelere oturtmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131n\u0131. Oysaki en tepede olan bulunan ancak ve ancak y\u00fcce Allah’t\u0131r.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Zaten de narsizmde de en kardinal semptomlardan birisidir bu b\u00fcy\u00fcklenme tutkusu. Narsizmde en bariz ve \u00e7ok net g\u00f6r\u00fclebilen\/hissedilebilen di\u011fer duygular yo\u011fun bir k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k, h\u0131rs, intikam\/kin: kendi hayat\u0131nda iyi gitmeyen \u015feyleri habire birisine fatura etme tutkusu, dev bir \u00f6fke ve onun herg\u00fcn patlamas\u0131. Bu semptom c\u00fcmb\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn hepsine birden rast geldi\u011finde bil ki o ki\u015fi de narsizm mevcuttur.<\/span>
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Enbiya 29. Ayet<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Bayrakl\u0131 Bayraktar Meali:<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Onlardan kim: \u201cAllah’tan ba\u015fka ben de bir tanr\u0131y\u0131m\u201d derse, i\u015fte onu cehennemle cezaland\u0131r\u0131r\u0131z. Z\u00e2limlerin cezas\u0131n\u0131 b\u00f6yle veririz. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Evet, gelelim de\u011fersizlik ve yetersizlik hissine. \u0130nsan kendisinin geneli olarak onaylanmas\u0131n\u0131 arzu eder, bu onaylamada elbette sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u00e7er\u00e7eve i\u00e7erisinde olursa, bu olgu onaylayan\u0131 da onaylanan\u0131 da ruhen b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcr, geli\u015ftirir, i\u00e7inde \u00e7i\u00e7ekler a\u00e7mas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flar. Ama narsist s\u00fcrekli ailesi taraf\u0131ndan habire ve durmadan a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lan\u0131lm\u0131\u015f, hor ve bir i\u015fe yaramaz bir ki\u015fi olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f oldu\u011fundan dolay\u0131 yetersizlik hissine travmatize olmu\u015ftur. Bu y\u00fczden de narsist habire be\u011fenilme tutumuyla herkesi bo\u011fan bir arzuya sahiptir. \u00d6yle ki kendisinin s\u00fcrekli onaylanmas\u0131 hep bekler, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc o sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131dan kendi kendine yetebilme\/yetme olgusunu bilmez ve tan\u0131maz. <\/span><\/p>\n\n

Narsist bu sebepten \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fc de aynalara bakmaya doyamaz ve giyimine, ku\u015fam\u0131na, yat\u0131na kat\u0131na \u00e7ok\u00e7a dikkat eder ve s\u0131rf onlar\u0131 temin edebilmek i\u00e7in \u00f6mr\u00fc billah \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r, didinir durur. Onun herhangi bir i\u015fte \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131 ise ancak ve ancak kendi egosuna yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 yat\u0131r\u0131mlara hizmet sa\u011flamak i\u00e7indir. Zannetmeki o aile reisli\u011fini \u00fcstlenmi\u015f de bunun i\u00e7in i\u015fe giderek eve para getiriyordur, ailenin ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131yordur. Bu taktikte zaten onun bir ba\u015fka manip\u00fclasyonudur i\u015flerini y\u00fcr\u00fctmek i\u00e7in. O sadece ve sadece kuzu gelecek yerden kaz\u0131 esirgemez, hepsi bu.<\/span>
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Kibirlenme\/b\u00fcy\u00fcklenme d\u00fcrt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcn en alt kat\u0131nda yatan davran\u0131\u015f \u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcn temellerinden birisi ise, bir ki\u015finin kendi g\u00f6z\u00fcnde kendisini yetersiz, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fclt\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f\/k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsenmi\u015f\/bir baltaya sap olamam\u0131\u015f gibi hissetmi\u015f oldu\u011fundan kaynaklanmakta. Yani bir ki\u015fi ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 toplum taraf\u0131ndan k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsenilir ve onunla alay edilirse, o ki\u015finin i\u00e7indeki bu duygusu kendi kendini hazm edebilme derdine d\u00fc\u015fer ve o k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemeyi b\u00fcy\u00fcklenmeye\/kibirlenmeye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrerek i\u015fi tersine ak\u0131t\u0131r\/aktar\u0131r veya \u00e7evirir. Bu durum ruhani bir mekanizma ben bu konuyu bu kadar g\u00fczel anlatan bir Hocam’dan okumu\u015ftum bu \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bilgiyi, ama Hoca’m\u0131n ismi \u015fu an akl\u0131ma gelmedi.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Kibirli ki\u015fi ise kimseyi be\u011fenmeyen bir yarat\u0131\u011fa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr ve s\u00fcrekli etraf\u0131ndaki herkesi i\u00e7ine kilitlenmi\u015f oldu\u011fu hastal\u0131kl\u0131 boyutlar alm\u0131\u015f olan su\u00e7luluk duygusundan dolay\u0131, i\u015flemi\u015f oldu\u011fu hi\u00e7bir su\u00e7un kendi \u00fczerine kalmamas\u0131na efor harcar d\u00f6ker. Ve hemen giri\u015fir kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131n su\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 o ki\u015finin y\u00fcz\u00fcne kar\u015f\u0131 say\u0131p d\u00f6kmeye, b\u00f6ylelikle kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakini hem a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lar, hem kendi i\u00e7ten rahatlar hemde o ki\u015fiyi toplum g\u00f6z\u00fc \u00f6n\u00fcnde d\u0131\u015flamay\u0131\/d\u0131\u015flatt\u0131rmay\u0131 veya aforoz etmeyi ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 zannedir akl\u0131 s\u0131ra.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Alt\u0131n \u00e7amura d\u00fc\u015fmekle k\u0131ymetini yitirmez.<\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00fcrk Atas\u00f6z\u00fc<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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\u015eu art\u0131k su g\u00f6t\u00fcrmez bir ger\u00e7ek ki, bir narsist her kime kar\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7indeki kinini, \u00f6fkesini, h\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131, intikam ve kin duygular\u0131n\u0131, k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanm\u0131\u015f ve yetersiz k\u0131l\u0131nm\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131n\u0131n faturas\u0131n\u0131 kesmi\u015f ise ve her kime bu \u015fekilde bedel \u00f6detmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015fsa, bunlar sadece ve sadece narsistin kendi i\u00e7inde var olduklar\u0131n\u0131 bildi\u011fi ama kendisine itiraf edemedi\u011fi umman bir sanr\u0131s\u0131d\u0131r. Narsist asl\u0131nda toplumun g\u00f6z bebe\u011fi olmaya \u00e7aba t\u00fcketirken, kendi kendisini toplum taraf\u0131ndan bilinen ve yarg\u0131lanan ve dahas\u0131 toplum d\u0131\u015f\u0131 etmi\u015f bir varl\u0131kt\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kibirin kar\u015f\u0131t\u0131 al\u00e7ak g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fcl\u00fckt\u00fcr, \u00f6fkenin kar\u015f\u0131t\u0131 ise s\u00fckunettir, h\u0131rs\u0131n ise raz\u0131l\u0131kt\u0131r, yertersizli\u011fin ki ise yeterliliktir, su\u00e7luluk duygusunun ki ise su\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 anlay\u0131p kabul etmek vs. Zira ancak ve ancak y\u00fcce Yaradan su\u00e7 i\u015flemekten tamamen ve sonsuz olarak m\u00fcnezzehtir. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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En\u2019am 129. Ayet<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0130\u015fte biz, kazand\u0131klar\u0131 g\u00fcnahlar y\u00fcz\u00fcnden z\u00e2limleri k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck i\u015flemede birbirine b\u00f6ylece dost ve yard\u0131mc\u0131 yapar\u0131z.<\/span> <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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