{"id":268,"date":"2021-11-27T07:34:04","date_gmt":"2021-11-27T06:34:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/?p=268"},"modified":"2022-09-22T09:30:03","modified_gmt":"2022-09-22T07:30:03","slug":"19-yalan-konusma-ve-yalani-normal-sayma-ve-dolayisiyla-gercekle-illuezyon-arasini-artik-ayirt-edememe-yapisi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/index.php\/2021\/11\/27\/19-yalan-konusma-ve-yalani-normal-sayma-ve-dolayisiyla-gercekle-illuezyon-arasini-artik-ayirt-edememe-yapisi\/","title":{"rendered":"19. Yalan konu\u015fma ve yalan\u0131 normal sayma ve dolay\u0131s\u0131yla ger\u00e7ekle ill\u00fczyon aras\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131k ay\u0131rt edememe yap\u0131s\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"

Narsizm de bir dev sorun daha mevcuttur o da \u015fu ki narsistin elmay\u0131 armut olarak g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f olmas\u0131d\u0131r tabii ki de e\u011fer o elmay\u0131 dahi alg\u0131lay\u0131p g\u00f6rebiliyorsa. Bence onun kendisine en b\u00fcy\u00fck sorun yaratan semptomlar\u0131ndan bir di\u011feri de \u015fudur ki o – y\u0131llar i\u00e7erisinde kendi kendine tasarlam\u0131\u015f ve yaratm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu i\u00e7 ger\u00e7eklerinden hari\u00e7 – d\u0131\u015far\u0131daki var olan milyarlarca olan bitenleri, yani var olan di\u011fer ger\u00e7ekleri tamamen reddetmi\u015f vaziyettedir. Bu kendine has bir ruh hal durumudur, narsist bir alg\u0131 yan\u0131lmas\u0131na tutulmu\u015ftur.
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De\u011fil mi ki alg\u0131d\u0131r bizim fark etti\u011fimiz\/alg\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her\u015feyi ama her\u015feyi g\u00f6zlemledi\u011fimiz\/izlemledi\u011fimiz yegane bir i\u00e7sel mekanizmam\u0131z. G\u00f6zlerimizle, hislerimizle veya duyular\u0131m\u0131zla alg\u0131lar\u0131z etraf\u0131m\u0131zdaki olan biten her\u015feyi. O halde alg\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir zihinsel enstr\u00fcman\u0131m\u0131z.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

\u0130nsandaki var olan sanr\u0131 ise, alg\u0131 yan\u0131lma ve dahi ill\u00fczyon mekanizmalar\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7 sa\u011fl\u0131k durumunun hezimete u\u011fram\u0131\u015f olan boyutlar\u0131d\u0131rlar. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsene zihinsel olarak bu vahim hastal\u0131klar\u0131n ensesine kilitlenmi\u015f olmak demek, ger\u00e7ek\/ger\u00e7ekleri alg\u0131lama duyusunun yitimi (derealizasyon) demektir. Ve buna ek olarakta kendine yabanc\u0131la\u015fma\/kendi ki\u015fili\u011finden \u00e7\u0131kma denilen depersonalizasyon durumu s\u00f6z konusudur. Hal b\u00f6yleyken narsizme tutulmu\u015f bir ki\u015finin yalan konu\u015fma potansiyeli – olaylar\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f alg\u0131lama mekanizmas\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 – onun i\u00e7inde d\u00f6n\u00fcp duran ayr\u0131ca da bir ger\u00e7ektir. Benim \u00e7evremdeki ve dahi d\u00fcnyasal incelemelerimde de ayn\u0131 duruma say\u0131s\u0131zca defa denk geldim.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

O vakit anlad\u0131m ki, narsistin kendine has bir i\u00e7 alemi var ve akl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131nda bir insandan yani insan-\u0131 k\u00e2milden tamamen ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f\/ayr\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f durumdad\u0131r o. Senin anlayaca\u011f\u0131n narsizmin pen\u00e7esinde olanlar ayr\u0131 bir yolun yolcusudur. Onunla ne bir ileti\u015fim kurmak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn ne onun taraf\u0131ndan anla\u015f\u0131lmak, sevilmek ve di\u011fer kutsal ahlak yap\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 hissetmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. O ancak heybesindeki var olan ve ona ezberletilerek dayat\u0131lm\u0131\u015f olan hayatta kalma prosed\u00fcrlerinden ibarettir. Her ortaya sergiledi\u011fi eylemler tamamen ezberlenmi\u015f konulard\u0131r. Narsist zaten de \u00e7ok\u00e7a kulaktan dolma bilgileri sana anlat\u0131r ve hakiki bilimden sana bahsetti\u011fi zaman bil ki onu da \u00f6nceden iyice ezber etmi\u015ftir ki kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na ge\u00e7en ki\u015fiye kar\u015f\u0131 utan\u00e7 bir duruma d\u00fc\u015fmesin diye.
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Narsist ancak ve ancak insanlar\u0131 ac\u0131ya u\u011fratan onlar\u0131n can\u0131n\u0131 yakan, alemi yak\u0131p y\u0131k\u0131p ate\u015fe verip ortam\u0131 cehenneme nas\u0131l \u00e7evrilme konusuyla ilgilidir hatta bu konuda da tamamen uzman konumundad\u0131r. Onun `akl\u0131‘ ancak ve ancak kendi egosunu dahada \u015fi\u015firecek meseleleri incelemek, belirlemek ve de onlar\u0131 kendi leyhine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fecek \u015fekle \u00e7evirmek. Onun bulunan mesleksel dahili\u011fi bile s\u0131rf kendisini toplumda \u00f6n plana \u00e7\u0131karmak i\u00e7in\/toplumlara lider olma merkezli olarak ezber edilmi\u015ftir.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Ve inan\u0131lacak gibi de\u011fil ama narsist kendine meslek edindi\u011fi ahlak ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda ahlaks\u0131z yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6yle bir sinsice, \u00f6yle gizli kapakl\u0131 ve kapal\u0131 kap\u0131lar ard\u0131nda ezber eder ve etraf\u0131na da onlar\u0131 uygular ki, sen e\u011fer onun i\u00e7 boyutlar\u0131n\u0131 az bu\u00e7uk tan\u0131m\u0131yorsan, seni a\u011f\u0131na kurban olarak d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015f olu\u015funu dahi bile y\u0131llar sonra anlar ya da alg\u0131lars\u0131n<\/span>. Zaten onun se\u00e7mi\u015f oldu\u011fu kurbanlar tesad\u00fcfi de\u011fillerdir onlar\u0131 bilin\u00e7li olarak se\u00e7er. Dev hastal\u0131kl\u0131 boyutlara ula\u015fm\u0131\u015f olan kontrolc\u00fc delili\u011fi\/bunakl\u0131\u011f\u0131 sayesinde \u00f6nceden kurbanlar\u0131n\u0131n hal ve hareketlerini, hayat ya\u015fam tarzlar\u0131n\u0131 detay\u0131na kadar \u00f6l\u00e7er\/bi\u00e7er ve inceler. Ondan sonra \u00e7\u0131kar kurban\u0131n\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na onu – y\u0131llarca s\u00fcren seremonileriyle – k\u00f6le durumuna kilitleyebilmek i\u00e7in.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Onun hastal\u0131kl\u0131 yap\u0131lar\u0131ndan baz\u0131lar\u0131ndan daha bahsedece\u011fim ve bunlar\u0131 mutlaka incelemeni tavsiye ederim, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bir narsistin ipli\u011fini pazara \u00e7\u0131karmak istiyorsan e\u011fer, ki bu narsistin en en en korktu\u011fu konulard\u0131r, onun izlemi\u015f oldu\u011fu izleri iyi izlemlemi\u015f ve de\u015fifre etmi\u015f olman gerekiyor.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

\u0130\u015fte narsistlerin birka\u00e7 tane daha di\u011fer ill\u00fcyzon\/manip\u00fclasyon mekanizmalar\u0131: O bizleri <\/span><\/p>\n

– tavlar, yemler ve bizi bize kar\u015f\u0131 \u00f6ver de \u00f6ver (Hoovering); <\/span><\/p>\n

–\u00a0 \u00e7ok iyi bildi\u011fimiz konularda\/olaylarda bizi mutlaka ikileme d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrerek bizi \u00e7\u0131ld\u0131rtmaya u\u011fra\u015f\u0131r ve akl\u0131m\u0131zla zorumuz oldu\u011funu bize dayat\u0131r (Gaslighting);\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n

– eylemleriyle s\u00f6yledikleri asla ve asla uyu\u015fmaz;<\/span><\/p>\n

– habire <\/span>yalan konu\u015ftuklar\u0131 onlara s\u00f6ylendi\u011fi halde yalan konu\u015fmaya mutlaka devam ederler; <\/span><\/p>\n

– her konuyu kendi leyhlerine \u00e7evirirler; <\/span><\/p>\n

– onlarda annebabal\u0131k kavram\u0131 edebi ve ahlak\u0131 yap\u0131s\u0131 katiyyen yoktur ve onlar kendilerini asla bir annebaba rol\u00fcnde g\u00f6rmezler; <\/span><\/p>\n

– ortal\u0131\u011f\u0131 cehenmme \u00e7evirdikleri halde s\u00fcrekli iyi \u00f6vg\u00fcler beklerler; <\/span><\/p>\n

– ele\u015ftirilmelerine kar\u015f\u0131 katiyyen kar\u015f\u0131d\u0131rlar; <\/span><\/p>\n

– a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 derece \u015f\u00fcphecidirler ve insan\u0131n i\u00e7ine kurt gibi \u015f\u00fcphecili\u011fi sokarlar; <\/span><\/p>\n

– laf sokma k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fc i\u00e7lerinde \u00e7ok iyi beslerler ve her kimi k\u0131skanm\u0131\u015fsalar ona bu cehennem zehirini uygularlar; <\/span><\/p>\n

– insani \u00f6ver gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrken laflar\u0131 sokarlar; <\/span><\/p>\n

– daima bize d\u00fc\u015fman kesilmi\u015f\/bizim rahats\u0131z oldu\u011fumuz ki\u015filer tayfas\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda saf tutarlar: Dostumun d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131 dostumdur; <\/span><\/p>\n

– d\u00fc\u015fmanlar\u0131m\u0131zdan bize laf ta\u015f\u0131rlar ve o laflar\u0131n da aras\u0131na ba\u015fka bizleri a\u015fa\u011f\u0131layacak ve k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrecek kelimeleri katarak s\u00fcslerler; <\/span><\/p>\n

– ge\u00e7me beni ge\u00e7erim seni tam onlara g\u00f6re bir sistemdir: Birileriyle yar\u0131\u015fma, rekabet, entrika yaratmada bir dahilik vs.; <\/span><\/p>\n

– kibirleri umman vaziyettedir ve kendilerini her\u015feyden ve herkesten tamamen \u00fcst\u00fcn g\u00f6r\u00fcrler ve \u00f6zel bir yarat\u0131k olduklar\u0131 sanr\u0131s\u0131na d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrler; <\/span><\/p>\n

– en \u00e7ok \u00f6lmekten korkarlar, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bilirler ki eninde sonunda y\u00fcce Tanr\u0131’n\u0131n emirlerinin tam tersini icraat etmi\u015f olarak yar\u0131n ahirette hesaba \u00e7ekileceklerini; <\/span><\/p>\n

– onlar tamamen empati yoksunudurlar <\/span><\/p>\n

– bir insan\u0131n mutlu olu\u015funa asla ve asla tahamm\u00fcl edemezler…
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\u0130yile\u015febilirsin, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131n yaln\u0131zca bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce.<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

Osho <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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