{"id":271,"date":"2021-11-27T07:35:43","date_gmt":"2021-11-27T06:35:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/?p=271"},"modified":"2022-09-22T07:09:20","modified_gmt":"2022-09-22T05:09:20","slug":"20-meseleleri-birbirinden-ayiramama-ve-kategorize-edememe-sorunu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/index.php\/2021\/11\/27\/20-meseleleri-birbirinden-ayiramama-ve-kategorize-edememe-sorunu\/","title":{"rendered":"20. Meseleleri birbirinden ay\u0131ramama ve kategorize edememe sorunu"},"content":{"rendered":"

Bu mesele galiba benim hayat\u0131mda beni en \u00e7ok ama en \u00e7ok \u00fczen meselelerden birisi olmu\u015ftur. \u015eunu da burada belirtmeliyim ki benim sitelerimde yazm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fum t\u00fcm yaz\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131n temelinde yatan olay\u0131n benim onlar\u0131 bizzat ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f olmamd\u0131r. Dahas\u0131 o zalimlikleri\/zorbal\u0131klar\u0131\/m\u00fcnaf\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131 kendi can\u0131mda ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f olmay\u0131 bir kenara b\u0131rak, narsistler taraf\u0131ndan bana bizzat uygulanm\u0131\u015f olan t\u00fcm ac\u0131 olaylar\u0131, bana yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f olan zul\u00fcmlerin haricinde, bir de ben onlar\u0131 d\u00fcnya \u00e7ap\u0131nda hemde y\u0131llar y\u0131l\u0131 inceledim. `Acaba ba\u015fka insanlar da benim ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fum \u015feylere benzer dramalar ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f m\u0131d\u0131r?‘ diye de inceden inceye ara\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131m. Bir di\u011fer soru da \u015fuydu `e\u011fer d\u00fcnya alemdeki insanlar ayn\u0131 sorunlardan muzdaripseler, acaba onlarda bu t\u00fcr olaylarlar\u0131n kendisini d\u0131\u015fa vurumu nas\u0131l bir \u015fekilde olmu\u015ftur?‘\u00a0 diye de \u00e7ok\u00e7a inceledim. Biz bu meseleye empirik psikoloji e\u011fitimi diyoruz.
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Biz bu meseleye empirik psikoloji e\u011fitimi de diyoruz. Bizzat kendi deneyimlerimize dayanarak bu konulara \u0131\u015f\u0131k tutmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131z \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu derin ara\u015ft\u0131rma insana verilmi\u015f olan en hakikatli bilgilerden bir bilgi t\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fcr.
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Gelelim narsistin konular\u0131 birbirinden ay\u0131ramama, kategorize edememe a\u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131na ve firesine. Esasen temelinde ben atm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fum ba\u015fl\u0131kla \u015funu da anlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorum, narsizme kililtlenmi\u015f olan yap\u0131 size siz bir konuda hakl\u0131 olsan\u0131z dahi sizin tamamen haks\u0131z oldu\u011funuzu size kar\u015f\u0131 sizi a\u015fa\u011f\u0131layarak sizin i\u00e7inize zehir gibi ak\u0131tmaya t\u00fcrl\u00fc \u00e7abalar sarf edecektir. Siz istedi\u011finiz kadar bir konuyu derinden derine as\u0131l hakikatlere ula\u015fm\u0131\u015f olarak savunursan\u0131z savunun narsist size hep tersini anlatacakt\u0131r.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc narsistin en temel ihtiyac\u0131 – sizi hem size kar\u015f\u0131 hemde sizi topluma kar\u015f\u0131\/toplumu da size kar\u015f\u0131 k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rtarak – d\u00fc\u015fman k\u0131lmak. O sizin kimselerle dost olmaman\u0131z i\u00e7in kendisini yiyip bitirip t\u00fcketecektir. Emin ol ki narsist bu konuda umman bir dahidir ve onlar gerek g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri zaman aralar\u0131nda kabilelerine kar\u015f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015fman kesilmi\u015f olsalar dahi s\u0131rf hakikat yoluna kendisini adam\u0131\u015f birisini – tabiri caizse – b\u00f6cek gibi ezip ge\u00e7mek i\u00e7in biraraya gelirler, dost olurlar ve s\u0131ms\u0131k\u0131 birbirlerine sar\u0131l\u0131rlar \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc onlar ayn\u0131 yolun yolucular\u0131d\u0131rlar: Her f\u0131rsatta Allah’a kar\u015f\u0131 olan dev isyanlar\u0131n\u0131 doya doya azg\u0131nl\u0131klar\u0131n envai\u00e7e\u015fitleriyle ya\u015famak ve bundan da ge\u00e7i\u00e7i ve be\u015f para etmez zevkler elde etmektir. <\/span><\/p>\n\n

Onlar\u0131n azg\u0131nl\u0131klar\u0131 o kadar sonsuz ki d\u00fcnya alemi sahipsiz zannetmekteler bu y\u00fczden de deliliklerinin ve sald\u0131rganl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n da sanki sonu yok gibidir. Ama eninde sonunda, Allah’\u0131 her ne kadar da inkar etmi\u015f olarak ya\u015fasalar da az\u0131p kudursalar da hesaplar\u0131 y\u00fcce Allah taraf\u0131ndan in\u015fallah g\u00f6r\u00fclecek. Ben onlar\u0131n as\u0131l hallerini o tart\u0131lar\u0131n kuruldu\u011fu y\u00fcce g\u00fcn o adalet \u015firazesinin kuruldu\u011fu g\u00fcn g\u00f6rmek isterim!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Osho<\/span><\/p>\n

As\u0131l sorun insan\u0131n kendini nas\u0131l bilece\u011fi de\u011fil. As\u0131l sorun nas\u0131l olup da kendini bilemedi\u011findir.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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\u015eimdi sana soruyorum karde\u015fim: Bir narsist alg\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131 konular\u0131 nas\u0131l alg\u0131lar ve onlar\u0131 ne olarak yorumlar? Ve dahi narsistlerin alg\u0131lar\u0131 ne durumdad\u0131r, onlar\u0131n g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri\/alg\u0131lad\u0131klar\u0131 alg\u0131 neye hizmet eder? Alg\u0131lam\u0131\u015f olduklar\u0131 konular\u0131 i\u00e7lerinde bulunan sistemsel mekanizma taraf\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 ne tarafa do\u011fru b\u00f6ler\/\u00e7arparlar ve onlarda zihinsel\/ruhsal a\u00e7\u0131dan harmanlama meselesi ne durumdad\u0131r? Ve daha da ac\u0131s\u0131: Narsist hangi tarafta ve kimin taraf\u0131nda <\/span>saf tutmu\u015ftur? Tutmu\u015f oldu\u011fu saf\u0131n sonu ise nereye var\u0131r?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Osho<\/span><\/p>\n

Bilin\u00e7siz bir ki\u015finin elinde iyi bir niyet bile zehre d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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