{"id":280,"date":"2021-11-27T07:44:56","date_gmt":"2021-11-27T06:44:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/?p=280"},"modified":"2022-09-20T08:26:55","modified_gmt":"2022-09-20T06:26:55","slug":"23-amansiz-bir-sekilde-icsel-derin-ve-suebjektif-hissedilen-aci-cekme-ve-herseyi-dramatize-etme-yogunlugu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/index.php\/2021\/11\/27\/23-amansiz-bir-sekilde-icsel-derin-ve-suebjektif-hissedilen-aci-cekme-ve-herseyi-dramatize-etme-yogunlugu\/","title":{"rendered":"23. Amans\u0131z bir \u015fekilde i\u00e7sel derin ve s\u00fcbjektif hissedilen ac\u0131 \u00e7ekme ve her\u015feyi dramatize etme yo\u011funlu\u011fu"},"content":{"rendered":"

Amans\u0131z bir \u015fekilde i\u00e7sel derin ve s\u00fcbjektif (bireye ba\u011fl\u0131 i\u00e7 hali) ile hissedilen ac\u0131 \u00e7ekme ve her\u015feyi dramatize etme yo\u011funlu\u011fu: Bu konuyu anlatmas\u0131 biraz zor gibi geliyor bana, sende bilirsin belki, bazen baz\u0131 \u015feyleri o kadar h\u0131zl\u0131 hissediriz ki onlar\u0131 hemen kelimelere d\u00f6kemeyiz. Aradan biraz zaman ge\u00e7er ve beynimiz o konu ile gerekli c\u00fcmleleri toplad\u0131ktan sonra, aa bir de bakar\u0131z ki o g\u00fcn bu konuya kelime bulamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131k ama bug\u00fcn o aranm\u0131\u015f olan kelimeler veya anlat\u0131mlar\/bilgiler mevcut.
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\u00d6nce \u015fu s\u00fcbjektif meselesine bir a\u00e7\u0131kl\u0131k getirelim. S\u00fcbjektivite demek evvela i\u00e7imizde bir alg\u0131, yani d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce kal\u0131plar\u0131m\u0131z\/bu kal\u0131plarla ilgili hislerimiz veya d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcklerimiz\/duygu d\u00fcnyam\u0131zda hislerimizin ak\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 uzaktan uza\u011fa hissederiz\/alg\u0131lar\u0131z. Ve bu esnada duygu\/d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce\/alg\u0131\/hislerimizi hissederken de arka planda ba\u015flar\u0131z o konularla ilgili bir \u00e7e\u015fit bir ac\u0131 hissetmeye. \u0130\u00e7imizdeki duygu\/d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce selinin ve selin neler oldu\u011funu alg\u0131lamaya ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda onlara bir alg\u0131\/d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce daha y\u00fckleriz o an. Ve b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar \u00f6nce i\u00e7imizde ak\u0131\u015f\u0131r durur onlardan kimseye bahsetmeyiz, i\u015fte tam da bu hal bir s\u00fcbjektif hissetmedir\/alg\u0131lamad\u0131r.
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Dahas\u0131 ise ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zdan dolay\u0131 hissetti\u011fimiz o ac\u0131 ya o an o konular\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrken hissetti\u011fimiz ac\u0131d\u0131r ya da o kal\u0131plara travmatize edilmi\u015f oldu\u011fumuz vakitteki travmadan dolay\u0131 ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f ve i\u00e7selle\u015ftirdi\u011fimiz ac\u0131lard\u0131r.
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\u0130nsan travmatik bir olay ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda beyin o ruhsal musibeti hazmedebilmesi i\u00e7in ve ki\u015fi o esnada fazlaca hastalanmamas\u0131 i\u00e7in kendi kendine devreye ge\u00e7er ve o travmay\u0131 o an bir (veya bir\u00e7ok hislere) hisse kilitler. Biz buna Almanca da \u00b4Vulnerabilit\u00e4t‘ diyoruz: Ac\u0131y\u0131 hissetme veya \u00e7ekme kotas\u0131\/kontenjan\u0131\/hassasiyeti<\/span>. \u0130\u015fte o hislerin ad\u0131 ya ac\u0131 \u00e7ekmektir, ya korkudur, ya k\u00f6\u015feye s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k hissidir, ya \u00f6fkedir, ya k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131kt\u0131r, ya ruhi a\u00e7l\u0131kt\u0131r vs. Biz tam da b\u00f6yle b\u00f6yle o y\u0131llarca i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e s\u00fcbjektif bir halde o kal\u0131plar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 hisseder dururuz ve bu hal bizim ac\u0131 duymam\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011flar. O an o olanlar\u0131 ileriki hayat\u0131m\u0131zda tekrar ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda o duruma veya kendimizin nam\u0131na ac\u0131 hissediriz o t\u00fcr olaylara maruz b\u0131rak\u0131lm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fumuzdan dolay\u0131.<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n\n

Gelelim \u015fimdi narsistik ac\u0131 \u00e7ekme i\u015fine. Narsist bu mekanizmay\u0131 ya birini manip\u00fcle etmek i\u00e7in kullan\u0131r ya da o ki\u015finin ruhunu ba\u015fka bir \u015fekilde zedelemek i\u00e7in uygular. Bu onun bir takti\u011fidir ve bununla insanlar\u0131 tavlar ve avlar. Ben narsistin de ac\u0131 \u00e7ekti\u011fine inan\u0131yorum elbet ama ne hikmetse narsist yap\u0131 her alg\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131\/hissetti\u011fi \u015feyi kendi leyhi i\u00e7in kullan\u0131m\u0131na arz eder durur. Her konuyu veya olaylar\u0131 kendine yontma derdindedir. Hayat\u0131na tekam\u00fcl eden her meseleyi kendisine iyi gelecek \u015fekle \u00e7evirmek i\u00e7in \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fc t\u00fcketir durur. Hayat\u0131n do\u011fal ak\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrekli ve durmadan sistematiksel bir vaziyette engelleme tatbikat\u0131ndad\u0131r. Onlar\u0131 do\u011falm\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00f6sterme eylemindedir ancak bir narsistten \u00e7\u0131kan her\u015fey kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 bir oyalama\/yemleme\/tavlama mekanizmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Narsiste g\u00f6re en b\u00fcy\u00fck ac\u0131lar\u0131 o ya\u015fam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r, en b\u00fcy\u00fck ihanet ona edilmi\u015ftir. Anla\u015f\u0131lan o ki i\u00e7inde ne kadar s\u00fcbjektif ac\u0131 veya ba\u015fka hisler hissediyorsa narsist, o denli de o kal\u0131plar\u0131 kendisine hizmet eden bir kral\/krali\u00e7e haline de getirmeyi ba\u015farm\u0131\u015f durumdad\u0131r. G\u00f6ren de (duyan da) zanneder ki narsist ne kadar da \u00e7ok ac\u0131lar \u00e7ekmi\u015f hayat\u0131nda ama en b\u00fcy\u00fck ac\u0131y\u0131 as\u0131l narsist denen sistem etraf\u0131ndakilere ya\u015fat\u0131r, kendini zorla onlara dayatm\u0131\u015f olmakla. Narsist hep a\u011flar hep a\u011flar bunun ad\u0131 da duygu s\u00f6m\u00fcr\u00fcs\u00fcd\u00fcr. Narsist duygu s\u00f6m\u00fcr\u00fcs\u00fcnde bir krald\u0131r\/krali\u00e7edir.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Elbette ki hayat\u0131n do\u011fas\u0131 bu, ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fumuz ac\u0131lar\u0131 ve t\u00fcm di\u011fer duygu ak\u0131mlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131\/d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimizi\/alg\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ya\u015fama zorundayd\u0131k ama onlarla bar\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 ve onlar\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcrle\u015ftirmeyi ba\u015fararak ki\u015fisel geli\u015fimimizi desteklemekte zorunday\u0131z. O ac\u0131lar\u0131 kullanarak onlarla ba\u015fkalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 duygu s\u00f6m\u00fcr\u00fcs\u00fc yapmaya ne hakk\u0131m\u0131z var ki?! Onlarla y\u00fczle\u015fmek zorunday\u0131z ve onlar\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcle\u015ftirmek zorunday\u0131z ki ruhumuz biraz daha huzura erebilsin ve biz biraz daha bizi Yaratan’a yakla\u015fabilelim.
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Mevlana<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Cahil kimsenin yan\u0131nda kitap gibi sessiz ol.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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