{"id":346,"date":"2021-11-28T06:10:04","date_gmt":"2021-11-28T05:10:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/?p=346"},"modified":"2022-08-15T10:42:09","modified_gmt":"2022-08-15T08:42:09","slug":"34-narsistik-egitimin-bir-diger-tueyler-uerpertici-amaci-da-koelelestirilmis-olan-cocugun-yanina-arkadaslarinin-ya-da-ebeveynlere-cocugun-sirtindan-rakip-olabilecek-kimseleri-de-mutlaka-uzak-tutmakti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eeelmas.com\/index.php\/2021\/11\/28\/34-narsistik-egitimin-bir-diger-tueyler-uerpertici-amaci-da-koelelestirilmis-olan-cocugun-yanina-arkadaslarinin-ya-da-ebeveynlere-cocugun-sirtindan-rakip-olabilecek-kimseleri-de-mutlaka-uzak-tutmakti\/","title":{"rendered":"34. Narsistik e\u011fitimin bir di\u011fer t\u00fcyler \u00fcrpertici amac\u0131 da k\u00f6lele\u015ftirilmi\u015f olan \u00e7ocu\u011fun yan\u0131na arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n ya da ebeveynlere \u00e7ocu\u011fun s\u0131rt\u0131ndan rakip olabilecek kimseleri de mutlaka uzak tutmakt\u0131r"},"content":{"rendered":"

Narsist sistem “elinden kar\u015f\u0131 tarafa adam kapt\u0131rtmaktan“ \u00e7ok korkar. Kendisi habire hem kendisine hemde etraf\u0131ndakilere kar\u015f\u0131 hep ihanet i\u00e7erisinde oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n da ona ihanet edip ondan ne emeklerle kurmu\u015f oldu\u011fu hastal\u0131kl\u0131 grubundan herhangi birisinin eksilmesinden \u00e7ok\u00e7a \u00e7ekinir. Bu i\u015fe elbette, evlad\u0131m dedi\u011fi \u00e7o\u00e7uklar\u0131 da dahildir o g\u00fcruhun. Narsist evlad\u0131n\u0131 bir obje ve grup eleman\u0131 olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Narsist zaten her\u015feyi bir obje gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcr ve alg\u0131lar, kendisi tamamen empati yoksunu oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in alg\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fcnya varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sadece onun i\u00e7 keyfiyetine hizmet eden bir mekanizma olarak benimsemi\u015ftir. <\/span><\/p>\n

Bu konuya hemen d\u00fcnya genelinde \u00e7ok\u00e7a \u00f6n planda bulunan \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 bir \u00f6rnek vermek istiyorum burada: Narsist anne\/baba o\u011flunu\/k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 everir ama aileye yeni gelmi\u015f olan mensubu da asla ve asla o “aileye“ ger\u00e7ekten \u00fcye etmez. \u00d6rne\u011fin narsist annebaba s\u00fcrekli o\u011flu ile gelinin aras\u0131n\u0131 hep ama hep – hemde b\u0131kmadan y\u0131lmadan y\u0131llarca – gergin tutar onlar\u0131 habire birbirine d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrecek oyunlar oynar ikisinede. O\u011flu zaten de psikopat y\u00f6ntemlere g\u00f6re yeti\u015ftirilmi\u015f oldu\u011fundan dolay\u0131 anababas\u0131n\u0131 zaten – \u00e7ok ha\u015fa – Tanr\u0131 vasf\u0131na oturmu\u015ftur: Onlar ona ne emrederse o da onu yerine getirir. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla bir \u00e7ift evlenmi\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnebilir d\u0131\u015fa do\u011fru bu da ayr\u0131ca bir manip\u00fclasyon t\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fcr zaten, ama bu demek de\u011fildir ki onlar ger\u00e7ekten kutsal olan bir evlilik yapt\u0131lar. Hay\u0131r!, onlar narsistik sisteme hizmet\u00e7ilik yapan bir ki\u015fiyi daha gruba dahil ettiler. Gruba dahil ettiler ama o ki\u015fiyle – \u00e7ok sinsice ve i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e – herg\u00fcn ba\u015fka \u015fekillerde kavgalar \u00e7\u0131kartarak o ki\u015fiyi s\u00fcrekli su \u00fczerinde dans ettirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Narsist d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya kar\u015f\u0131 bu bizim yeni \u00fcyemiz der ama i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e de o \u015firkete yeni gelmi\u015f olan \u00fcyeye \u015fu mesaj\u0131 verir “sen asla bu s\u00fclaleye ait olamayacaks\u0131n!!“
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Bu bir ikilem t\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fcr i\u015fte, ben bir ki\u015fide iki y\u00fczl\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn te\u015fhisini koymaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131mda tam da bu mekanizmay\u0131 aray\u0131p ara\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yorum insan\u0131m diye ge\u00e7inen sahtekarlarda: \u0130ki y\u00fczl\u00fcl\u00fck mekanizmas\u0131: D\u0131\u015far\u0131ya kar\u015f\u0131 kendisi \u00e7ok \u00e7ok iyi bir insanm\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00f6stermeyi becermi\u015f olmak ama oyunun i\u00e7 taraf\u0131nda ise o umman a\u00e7 olan \u015feytan\u0131 doyurmaya ve susturmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir bunak.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

\u0130\u015fte tamda bu mekanizmayla narsistik yap\u0131 \u00e7o\u00e7u\u011funun yan\u0131na arkada\u015f olacak ki\u015fleri kendisi belirler ve se\u00e7er. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc en ba\u015fta \u00f6nemli olan \u015fudur ki emirler veren narsist “y\u00f6netici genel m\u00fcd\u00fcr\u00fcn“ bir dedi\u011fi iki edilmelidir. Onun s\u00f6z\u00fcnden asla \u00e7\u0131k\u0131lmamal\u0131. Onun s\u00f6z\u00fcnden \u00e7\u0131kmay\u0131 her kim hedeflemi\u015fse o ki\u015fiyi o gruptan a\u015fa\u011f\u0131layarak ve de o grubun g\u00f6z\u00fc \u00f6n\u00fcnde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrerek o ki\u015fiyi o gruptan def eder y\u00f6netici narsist. <\/span><\/p>\n

Hadi diyelim ki <\/span>oldu da narsistin evlad\u0131 kafas\u0131na g\u00f6re bir arkada\u015f se\u00e7ti, narsist y\u00f6netim hemen evlad\u0131n\u0131n o arkada\u015f\u0131na tuzaklar kurar ve o ki\u015fiyi tongaya d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrterek evlad\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcnde de onu s\u0131f\u0131rlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Bu i\u015fler \u00f6yle sinsice y\u00fcr\u00fcr ki arkada\u015flar narsistin ne halt etti\u011fini ve nas\u0131l ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 e\u011fer ki buna ya\u015famak denilirse, \u00f6\u011frenmek istersen mutlaka onun i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131ndaki d\u00f6nen tilkileri bir bir ayyuka \u00e7\u0131rkatman gerek. Narsistin i\u00e7i \u00e7ok bir karma\u015fa ve \u00e7ok bir korku yuma\u011f\u0131d\u0131r yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 her k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn kendisini bir numaral\u0131 iyi bir ki\u015fi yapaca\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131r. Oysa ki narsizmin h\u00fck\u00fcmranl\u0131k s\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc yerler bana g\u00f6re ate\u015flerde cay\u0131r cay\u0131r yanan cehennemlerdir.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Narsist m\u00fcd\u00fcr ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 konularda ise o grup dedi\u011fi yanda\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 o d\u00fc\u015fman belledi\u011fi ki\u015fiye kar\u015f\u0131 k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rt\u0131r ve onlar\u0131 habire d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerine p\u00fcsk\u00fcrt\u00fcr ki onu y\u0131ld\u0131ra bile. Asl\u0131nda narsistin burada tipik dev bir korkusu mevcuttur: Bulundu\u011fu m\u00fcd\u00fcrl\u00fck ve y\u00f6netim makam\u0131ndan alt kategorilere<\/span> kayd\u0131r\u0131lmak<\/span>. O y\u00fczden i\u015fte k\u00f6t\u00fc huylarda yar\u0131\u015f\u0131r narsist yap\u0131!: Zanneder ki “ben ne kadar \u00e7ok kar\u015f\u0131mdakini korkutmay\u0131 ba\u015far\u0131rsam o kadar da \u00e7ok oturdu\u011fum y\u00f6netim koltu\u011fu benimdir ve bana kal\u0131r ve herkes benden devam \u00e7ekinir ve bana sayg\u0131 duyar“. <\/span><\/p>\n\n

Narsist sistem etraf\u0131ndaki herkesleri kendisinden onlar\u0131n \u00e7ekinmesini sa\u011flam\u0131\u015f olarak ayakta kalmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir mekanizmad\u0131r. O konu\u015ftu\u011fu zaman zannedersin ki \u00e7ok ak\u0131ll\u0131d\u0131r \u00e7ok iyi bir insand\u0131r. Ama onun icraatlar\u0131na bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n zaman da her gitti\u011fi yeri cehenneme \u00e7evirmeyi ba\u015farm\u0131\u015f birisini g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn. \u0130kili oynad\u0131\u011f\u0131 buradan da anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r: A\u011fz\u0131 bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc laf kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131 yapar icraatlar\u0131 ise bamba\u015fka bir a\u011f\u0131z t\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fcr.
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Ona en \u00e7okta her alanda – hemde d\u00fcnya \u00e7ap\u0131nda<\/span> – y\u00f6netim koltuklar\u0131nda rastlars\u0131n o bir\u00e7ok yerde s\u00f6z sahibidir, toplumlar onu kabul etmi\u015f ve i\u00e7ine sindirmi\u015f oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in ona her yerde rastlamak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn: \u015eirketlerde, camilerde, \u00e7e\u015fitli kurulu\u015flarda, ailesinin i\u00e7erisinde, s\u00fclalesinin g\u00f6z\u00fcnde, sosyal faaliyetli alanlarda vs. Bu alanlar\u0131n hepsi de onun k\u0131l\u0131f\u0131d\u0131r. Daha bu k\u0131l\u0131flar ne ki?!, bana g\u00f6re onun k\u0131l\u0131flar\u0131 (yalan\u0131 dolan\u0131) sonsuzdur. <\/span><\/p>\n

Bu k\u0131l\u0131flar\u0131 d\u0131\u015f kal\u0131b\u0131na ge\u00e7irmi\u015f olarak kendisiyle her sokak ba\u015f\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fabilirsin. Onun elinden bu koyun postunu (k\u0131l\u0131f\u0131n\u0131) almak istiyorsak \u00f6nce onun i\u00e7ine gizlendi\u011fi mekanizmalar\u0131n hepsinin d\u0131\u015fa vurumunu sa\u011flamal\u0131y\u0131z. Toplumda – toplumun g\u00f6z\u00fc \u00f6n\u00fcnde – onu de\u015fifre etmeliyiz: Hat\u0131rla, o en \u00e7okta ona bunun uygulanmas\u0131ndan korkuyordu!! O ise her i\u015fine gelmedi\u011fi ki\u015filere bu terbiyesiz edepsizli\u011fi hi\u00e7 arlanmadan uygulayan yap\u0131yd\u0131! Onu her g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz yerde \u00fcst\u00fcne \u00fcst\u00fcne giderek onu i\u015flemi\u015f oldu\u011fu dev y\u00fcz karal\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile y\u00fczg\u00f6z etmeliyiz. Onun ne kadar bir utan\u00e7 manzaras\u0131 oldu\u011funu ve toplumu i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fcklere s\u00fcr\u00fckleyerek \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fctt\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcn bedelini ona \u00f6detmeliyiz. O tertemiz toplumlar\u0131n temizli\u011fini o pis midesiyle kald\u0131ramad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in o tertemiz toplumlar\u0131 aileleri g\u00fcruhun i\u00e7ine \u00e7ekmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nerede y\u00fczle\u015filip de\u011fi\u015fmeyen ve s\u00fcrekli devaml\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6steren bir k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck varsa bil ki narsistler de oray\u0131 mesken eylemi\u015flerdir.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

Narsistin en b\u00fcy\u00fck korkusu korkular\u0131 ile y\u00fczle\u015ftirilmesidir ve korku denen mekanizma ise tamamen bir ill\u00fczyondur: Zihnimizden ge\u00e7en bir olay\u0131n sonu iyiye do\u011fru da gidebilir k\u00f6t\u00fcye do\u011fru da yol alabilir korku i\u015fte tamda burada gizlidir: O bir konuda zihnimiz bizi yan\u0131ltabilir de yan\u0131ltmayabilir de: Biz ya tatl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde ya Allah’a kar\u015f\u0131 bir \u00e7ekinme sayg\u0131 duyma i\u00e7erisinde olaca\u011f\u0131z ya da kar\u015f\u0131 boyutu se\u00e7erek ve Allah’a ba\u015f kald\u0131rm\u0131\u015f olarak \u015feytan\u0131n bize emretti\u011fi k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fckleri devam uygulayaca\u011f\u0131z. Se\u00e7im bizim. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ve Allah’a giden yolu se\u00e7memi\u015f isek biz ak\u0131ldan (zeka potansiyeli) tamamen noksan\u0131z demektir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc Allah ancak Allah’\u0131n bize nasip etmesiyle ak\u0131l ve irade ile kalpte hissedilebilir.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n

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Atat\u00fcrk<\/span><\/p>\n

Hayat\u0131 ve \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc i\u00e7in \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc g\u00f6ze alan bir millet asla yenilmez.<\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n
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